Hi gabluzee!
I understand your thinking on the male vs. female doctor (that's how I felt at first too), but believe it or not my male doctor was way more sympathetic to the fertility issue.
My regular ob/gyn was a woman and she didn't even seem to want to hear anything about fertility. She didn't give me the feeling that she cared about me or my health so much as she just wanted to "take care of business". Whereas I'm the type of person who would go to the ends of the earth to save my fertility. (Then again I think it was just her manner as she was always very cold and short with me and made me feel rushed.)
When my results came back AIS, she wouldn't see me anymore and told me to go to a gyn/onc. The one I chose ended up being a man and I couldn't have been happier. He's the kind of doctor who takes you into his office after the physical exam and talks to you. On my first visit, he explained my condition in detail including drawing a diagram for me to show where the AIS had been found. On the day he gave me the results of my cone biopsy, he expressed his opinion that I try for a baby asap and not wait until my late 30's.
Take care and I hope for the best for you!