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    Old 12-26-2009, 01:41 PM   #1
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    Question What to anticipate after robotic surgery

    My husband just had the surgery on Dec 10th and let me tell everyone here that is thinking about going through this... buckle up for a bumpy ride. The surgery was 6 hours long becuase his prostate was unusually small and therefore took the surgeon a while to extract. His hospital stay was longer than expected as well because he had trouble moving his bowels and had excrutiating gas problems that he couldn't let out.... he went home with a catheter that did not come out until the 24th... Yes Christmas eve! The catheter was extremely painful as well and he had a lot of problems urinating. Now that the catheter is out he still had really bad spasms. The spasms are so intense that he has to hold back the pee. Thankfully, he is not incontinent at all...However, he has to pee about every 1 to 1 1/2 hours. This means that he is not sleeping through the night. He still wears a male pad (guard) just in case of leakage but has not had any at all. He states that his mind wants sex but (it) doesn't want to cooperate. We realize if far to soon for that.. but nevertheless have tried to the intimacy part. (I knew that it wouldn't work) but just wanted to test the waters so to speak.

    He's got high blood pressure and is on meds for this... If anyone else is going through this... Can you tell us how long it was before you were able to get an erection. I'm 42 and he's 60 and we're terribly in love and I will wait for him as long as it takes however I was just wondering how long it took you.

    Thanks!

     
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    Old 12-27-2009, 03:23 PM   #2
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    Re: What to anticipate after robotic surgery

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    Can you tell us how long it was before you were able to get an erection... I was just wondering how long it took you.
    Coupla weeks. I started out using Cialis as a "booster." Don't forget, your husband just had major urinary surgery...

    Sounds like he had a bit more of a bumpy ride than most, but it sounds like he's gotten through most of the rough part. What remains is, of course, what is most important: his post-surgery PSA. Best wishes with that...

     
    Old 12-28-2009, 04:48 PM   #3
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    Re: What to anticipate after robotic surgery

    Sorry to hear about your problems with robotic surgery.

    In general, I think that recovery is different for everyone of us and there is no formula. As an engineer I look at this as an “electrical’ issue. The nerves need to regenerate and fix themselves and that takes time. The nerves are used for both urination and for erections – but my guess is they are very different and take different amounts of time to recover. For me, I did not have an issue with incontinence and could go without pads in 6 weeks. As for erections – that took a lot longer and it is very different than it was before my surgery (I had robotic surgery on Sept. 14th). I use the Cialis sometimes but not always.

    As for having to pee every 1 to 1 hours, I wonder how much of this might be having a slight feeling and not want to leak so he goes to the bathroom. If I remember right, I found I was going more frequently and then as I got stronger I stretched it longer and longer. There may also be some residual things going on because the catheter stayed in so long. Like everything – give it time and things will get better. One other thing – I find that even now – when I am tired, and I bend down or roll around on the floor with my grandson – that there is a slight leakage feeling. It also happens if I am not careful and I laugh a lot ! My wife says – “Welcome to the club”. By the way I am 56.

    One other thing about sex – you will find that once you “try things out” it will be very different than before as when you have an orgasm – there is little or no ejaculation. That surprised me at first but the more I read the more I understood what was going on. The other thing that I read (in the literature from my doctor) is that you can have an orgasm without having an erection. I will not go into details (!) but leave it up to the student.

    Finally, the bad news about the Cialis or any of the ED drugs, unless you have an “ultra fantastic” insurance plan, you will only be allowed a small number of pills each month. My plan only lets me get 6 pills every 30 days. There are places out of the country (north of the border) where you can get Generics, but you have to hunt around. In mid-December Cialis had an ad in the paper for a “Free” sample. I cut out the ad, but I think you can go to their web site (not supposed to list it – sorry) and they might have the details. It was only for 3 of the 36 hour tablets or 30 low dose tablets.

    Good luck and again – give it time.

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    Old 12-29-2009, 07:04 AM   #4
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    Re: What to anticipate after robotic surgery

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    My husband just had the surgery on Dec 10th and let me tell everyone here that is thinking about going through this... buckle up for a bumpy ride. The surgery was 6 hours long becuase his prostate was unusually small and therefore took the surgeon a while to extract. His hospital stay was longer than expected as well because he had trouble moving his bowels and had excrutiating gas problems that he couldn't let out.... he went home with a catheter that did not come out until the 24th... Yes Christmas eve! The catheter was extremely painful as well and he had a lot of problems urinating. Now that the catheter is out he still had really bad spasms. The spasms are so intense that he has to hold back the pee. Thankfully, he is not incontinent at all...However, he has to pee about every 1 to 1 1/2 hours. This means that he is not sleeping through the night. He still wears a male pad (guard) just in case of leakage but has not had any at all. He states that his mind wants sex but (it) doesn't want to cooperate. We realize if far to soon for that.. but nevertheless have tried to the intimacy part. (I knew that it wouldn't work) but just wanted to test the waters so to speak.

    He's got high blood pressure and is on meds for this... If anyone else is going through this... Can you tell us how long it was before you were able to get an erection. I'm 42 and he's 60 and we're terribly in love and I will wait for him as long as it takes however I was just wondering how long it took you.

    Thanks!

    Hi idavis5199, your husband's recovery sounds just like my husband's (51 and I'm 46). He's surgery was on the 10th of Nov. (Tues) and he too had to stay a couple of extra days (home Sat.) because his bowels wouldn't start working and the gas just made his stomach bigger and bigger. Terrible pain for sure. His surgery was robotic also and ended up being a little over 6 hours but hey we want them to take there time and save those nerves etc right? Your husband is very lucky not to have any leaking as my husband is almost 5 weeks post cath removal and is stilling leaking. He's not having to go to the bathroom every hour mind you. Some nights he gets up once and some he gets up 2 or 3 times it just depends on how much and how late he drinks something in the evening.

    As far as the sex goes things are certainly different but he's taking very good care of me if you know what I mean! He was given cialis to start the day they took out to cath so he has now taken them for 4 weeks (missed this week). The doctor said not to expect too much as the nerves are in shock right now and it all takes time to heal. They say it can take up to a year and really you will never see it get as "hard" as it did before surgery. Last week (so fourth pill) we did notice it got a little harder but not enough for penetration but he did have an orgasm (which are dry now so no mess!). I was just so pleased with that for him and really I'm not in any rush. I actually find we have been much more intimate and taking much more time so we are enjoying each other and will deal with what ever happens in the future. I'm here to be as supportive as I can. Good luck to you and your husband hang in there I think it is going to be a long haul! Chris

     
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    Re: What to anticipate after robotic surgery

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    My husband just had the surgery on Dec 10th and let me tell everyone here that is thinking about going through this... buckle up for a bumpy ride. The surgery was 6 hours long becuase his prostate was unusually small and therefore took the surgeon a while to extract. His hospital stay was longer than expected as well because he had trouble moving his bowels and had excrutiating gas problems that he couldn't let out.... he went home with a catheter that did not come out until the 24th... Yes Christmas eve! The catheter was extremely painful as well and he had a lot of problems urinating. Now that the catheter is out he still had really bad spasms. The spasms are so intense that he has to hold back the pee. Thankfully, he is not incontinent at all...However, he has to pee about every 1 to 1 1/2 hours. This means that he is not sleeping through the night. He still wears a male pad (guard) just in case of leakage but has not had any at all. He states that his mind wants sex but (it) doesn't want to cooperate. We realize if far to soon for that.. but nevertheless have tried to the intimacy part. (I knew that it wouldn't work) but just wanted to test the waters so to speak.

    He's got high blood pressure and is on meds for this... If anyone else is going through this... Can you tell us how long it was before you were able to get an erection. I'm 42 and he's 60 and we're terribly in love and I will wait for him as long as it takes however I was just wondering how long it took you.

    Thanks!

     
    Old 01-11-2010, 11:49 AM   #6
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    Re: What to anticipate after robotic surgery

    I am 53 years old and had the robotic surg. in Sept.. I had the Cath for two weeks and started the Viagra two weeks post cath. removal, that was the first erection after surg. and only when taking Viagra did it happen. It is now four months post surg. and I still need the viagra.

     
    Old 01-26-2010, 06:08 PM   #7
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    Re: What to anticipate after robotic surgery

    it took us 3 to 6 months and he will need an 'aid' . He will need either a pump or a shot.

     
    Old 01-27-2010, 07:43 PM   #8
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    Re: What to anticipate after robotic surgery

    Of course you know that everyone is different. My DaVinci RLP also took 6 hours. I needed pads after the catheter was removed for a few weeks because of little leaks but that finally resolved itself. I was concerned about my new ED problem and I was convinced something must have gone wrong in surgery. But I took viagra which I didn't like so the uro gave me levitra which had fewer side effects for me. Little by little my erections came back while taking levitra. After almost 18 months, I didn't need levitra any more. Penetration is no longer a problem for us. Of course ejaculations are and will always be dry but the feeling is very intense none the less. So, be patient and trust the doc.
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