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Old 10-15-2002, 01:54 AM   #1
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Arrow What can I do for my friend and myself?

I just recently found out a few weeks ago that my best friend , whom I grew up with has a rare form of cancer.
It has totally thrown me off ,though I know she is much more affected by it than I am.

We are both in our early 20's and I keep asking myself how something like this could happen. Everything else in my life just stopped seeming important which, I thought was a normal reaction at first but now, I am starting to feel a little worried about it, because I am not doing so well at school anymore.

Also , what can I do for her? The chemotherepy and radiation are making her really weak and I can't visit or talk to her on the phone, does anybody know what I can do to make things better? What I can do for her and how can I help her through this? I just feel so helpless right now.

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Old 10-16-2002, 05:49 PM   #2
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What she needs now is to know you are there for her. Make a card for her and in it write things like do you remember when we ( something you did the was funny or not so nice ) Let her know you love her and care. When I went through my cancer It ment the world to me to get a card or call or a short note anything just to know that she is not alone in this.. Just let her know you are there, once a week just drop a note and never let a week go by without letting her know you love her.. Just my thoughts.. Also remember her in prayer... God Bless, Mars

Old 10-20-2002, 09:01 AM   #3
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One of the nicest things our child had in hospital was a poster made by her friends. There were some get well messages and quite a few 'goofy' photos. A friendly face during a crisis is always welcomed.

Old 10-28-2002, 11:00 PM   #4
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Hey, thanks for all the advice, yes it's hard to figure out what to do, because theres not much I can do and I wish there was something that I could do.

I have been letting her know that I'm there for her so hopefully that will make things better. Also she is done with her chemotherepy and radiation treatments now , so that is really great. Thanks for all the support , I really need it too.

I wish there were a help place for family friends of cancer patients- does any body know of things like this?

Old 10-30-2002, 08:38 PM   #5
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There is an organization called "The Wellness Community" that runs support groups both for cancer patients and for their family/friends/caregivers. I'm not sure if there's one in your area, but since it was started in California, there may indeed be one nearby. I would suggest you call directory assistance and check in all the area codes near you.

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