| Re: Sex and cp
I can thoroughly relate to your pain as well as your BF's. I am a 33 year old male with spastic diplegia and until recently I very much enjoyed sex with my wife; however in the last few months I have begun to experience what seems to be ever increasing pain and debilitating loss of energy from even the simplest of tasks (like sitting in a chair for more than 10-15 mins). My wife and I had some intimate time about two weeks ago after nearly a month without due to my pain, and I want to say it was worth it, but it wasn't. I was literally confined to a bed for 3-4 days afterward because of the pain in my hips and lower back afterwards. I hate to say this, because, frankly, I am relatively young and I absolutely love sex, but if it is going to cause that sort of pain, I will have to learn to do without it.
Things you might consider specifically would be taking the more active role in your lovemaking...in my case if I don't have to be the one 'performing' it can help. Short of that, I sadly dont have many suggestions other than to try to talk openly with your partner. Make sure you stress to him what you have told us here, that you want him to be able to enjoy it and not regret it and that if there is anything you can do to make it more comfortable/enjoyable for him...it may be that he is worried you will reject him somehow if he brings it up, so it could be up to you to open the door so he will feel comfortable walking through it. Good luck.
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