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    Old 06-25-2005, 07:01 AM   #1
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    Bed wetting girl

    My daughter is 12 going on 13 and wets the bed every night. It is not an emotional is physical. She is dead asleep and even if I try to wake her up, she doesn't know what is going on. I have limited her drinks and such. She has no problem going hours without a visit to the powder room during the day so it seems the bladder has enough room, I think....I would like to know what kind of medical tests she might need to have and what kind of treatments might work for her. I am worried because of her age...soon she will be starting her period...any suggestions?

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    Old 08-22-2005, 08:49 PM   #2
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    I can sympathize with you. My daughter is almost 10 and still wets the bed. We have tried everything under the sun to get her dry in the morning. We have cut out drinks after 6pm bathroom just before climbing in bed, waking her up in the middle of the night. She still wakes up wet. We have talked to the dr on numerous occasions. He said there's nothing to do til she is 10. There is family history of this. I was 10-11, her dad was the same age also. My other sister also wet the bed. We have used all options and now just don't know what else to do. The dr. did say that the medication is very expensive, so that's almost not an option for us right now. I am also very concerned because she is so close to starting her first period and I worry about all this. Any suggestions?

    Old 08-27-2005, 06:50 PM   #3
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    Whan I was in college I learned that bed wetting does run in families, in groups of three: bedwetting, sleep walking and I'm not sure of the third one, I think it was talking in your dream. So for eg if you were a sleep walker, your child it at increased risk for either bedwetting, sleep walking or your case your daughter is a bedwetter.
    My brother wet his bed until he was 16yrs old. My parents tried EVERYTHING and nothing worked. Finally one specialist said that since there is nothing physically or emotionally wrong w/ him, my parents will have to stop focusing on it so much, making a big deal out of it and simply let my brother grow out of it. It was very hard for my mom b/c she always felt that it was a failure on her part as a parent. My brother suffered from it too, b/c he got punished for it too at one point.
    So my advice, as a person who has witnessed this, I would suggest that you let your daughter know that some children genetically take longer to control their bladder, that it's not her fault and simply ignore it. I'm sure she feels bad as it is, so I would just ignore it (As long as you have ruled out any physical problems w/ her doctor)

    Old 08-29-2005, 02:41 AM   #4
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    My sister is 46 and finally stoped wetting the bed at age 36 to the relief of her husband. She slept so heavy she would sit up in bed thinking she was in the bathroom pee and go back to sleep. There was nothing wrong physically, and she had always done it. There are medication she could use to stop it but choose not to deal with side effects. Her Dr. suggest a alarm system that consisted of a pad she placed under her on the bed and it would set off a alarm when it detected wetness. The ideal being she would wake whwn her bladder was full to avoid the alarm. She still on occasion has a accident if she is overtired. Note 3 of her 4 children are bedwetters.

    Old 08-29-2005, 03:07 AM   #5
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    See your doctor. We had some concerns about this with our daughter as well. Whatever the tests are, they're simple and the treatment is supposed to be very effective as well. She'll certainly feel better if you can address the issue. Our daughter's now 8 and we would have had her tested this summer but she stopped on her own.

    Old 08-31-2005, 03:52 PM   #6
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    I think right now our biggest challenge of my daughter wetting the bed is that her dad and I are divorced and have been for 5 years. My boyfriend and I have almost gotten her dry every morning but she still wears pull ups at her dads. I am just as busy as he is and we have told him that she hasn't wore them here for 6 months or more. He insists on keeping her in them til she stays dry. We (my boyfriend and I) just quit letting her wear them and told her she better wake up dry. She has done real well the last 2 weeks. She does have to wash her own sheets and I help her make her bed but usually it is her responsibility. My boyfriend is harder on her than I am. He tells her she is a big girl now and she needs to stop wetting the bed. Yes, we have our differences on that topic. With us just letting her wear panties to bed and not pull ups I have seen a change in her. She does wake up and give me a big hug in the am. "Mommy I'm dry" and she's happy. I aske dher if she still wears pull ups at dads, she said every night she's there. How do I get her dad to take her out of them?

    Old 09-02-2005, 01:20 PM   #7
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    I had a friend that wet the bed until she was 13. Her mom got her an alarm that was set and she would wake up and use the restroom and then go back to bed. That is what stopped her from wetting the bed. So maybe try taking your child to get a "special clock" and see if that works.

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    Old 09-02-2005, 07:17 PM   #8
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    My daughter wet her bed until just last year, and she is 9 now. I feel your pain. She felt bad about it and sleepovers were scary for her because she was afraid of wetting or wearing a pull-up at someone else's house. I think for her it was a combination of 2 things: immature bladder and being a very sound sleeper. I am lucky that it just went away. It must be really hard with a child older than that. You can tell her she needs to be a big girl over and over but it won't make a difference. She isn't doing it on purpose. Good luck. I know how much this one can frustrate both you and your daughter.

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    Re: Bed wetting girl

    Eliminate soft drinks, tea and other beverages that will irritate the bladder or act as a diuretic.

    Training the bladder to hold more may be a solution.

    Old 09-04-2005, 12:28 AM   #10
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    Years ago I read that bed wetters are missing a hormone or something that causes them to not realize that they need to pee and should wake up. There is a medication in the form of a nasal spray that you spray the person's nose at night and they wake up instead of wetting the bed. It was a prescription medication.

    I do not know the name of the medication or if it truly works. I know that when I read about it, I immediately called my sister in law whose son wet the bed every night.

    Old 09-04-2005, 08:33 PM   #11
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    This is an interesting and after reading of your experiences, an obviously concerning topic. It has been mentioned in a message that there is a hormone missing. This is in the most part true. Tea, coffee, cola etc. contain caffeine, which is a diruretic. A diruretic is a chemical that encourages the body to produce urine. The missing hormone is called antidiuretic hormone. This is produced in the evening and while we sleep to stop us producing urine so that we don't need to go to the toilet during the night.
    Have you noticed that children are much heavier sleepers than adults? I can pick mine out of the car, take of their shoes & socks and put them into bed without waking them up. When children with low antidiuretic hormone produce urine and they need to go to the toilet, they don't necessarily wake up in time to stop themselves from wetting the bed. If this goes on for some time, even though the hormone level may return to normal naturally, it can become a "sleep habit" to urinate during the night.
    In either case, alternative therapies can be of some help. I am a Bowen Therapist ( for information about Bowen Therapy in your country). Bowen Therapy has had much success with this problem. Whilst it is quite natural for you to be concerned about bed-wetting and to go to your medical health provider to make sure that there is nothing else that is causing the problem, please don't discount what other, natural therapies can do for you. In my practice, I offer a performance guarantee because I know that it works. In 6 years as a Bowen Therapist, I have not had one client who has not reacted positively to this therapy and I have treated many different people for a great variety of problems.
    If you are concerned about this problem, then I would strongly urge you to look into Bowen Therapy.
    Yours in health,

    Old 09-04-2005, 08:36 PM   #12
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    My daughter only drinks about 2 sodas per month. We have eliminated all drinks after 5-6pm. She does drink juice, but nothing after5-6pm. She is really frustrated with the bed wetting herself. I give her a kiss at night and seh says" I know mom, stay dry." That is kindof upsetting to me because I know she tries. She has never spent the night with anyone, except grandma. She's afraid. Thanks for the advice.

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