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Old 04-23-2009, 12:14 AM   #1
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Question # year old refuses to wear underwear or pull ups.

My three year old little boy will not wear underwear. He says they hurt his penis. I have asked several people if they encountered this problem while trying to potty train and no one had ever heard of it. When I first started trying to potty trian him I used pull ups and he even complained with them. He tells me and my husband he doesn't want to wear big boy underwear that he wants to wear his diaper. I have had him checked out by his physician and he doesn't have any medical problems that could be causing pain so I'm totally confused on what to do. If anyone has any sugestions please let me know it would be greatly appreciated.

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Old 04-23-2009, 07:37 AM   #2
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Re: # year old refuses to wear underwear or pull ups.

It's a control issue. Get rid of all the diapers so he has to wear the underwear or he goes without and pees down his leg. That would be my solution but some may see it as harsh. I'm from the "old school" Good luck.

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Re: # year old refuses to wear underwear or pull ups.

I had a harder time potty training my son than I did with my daughter. She was ready and "raring" to go before 2 years old and it was easy.

My son? Urghh...not so much. Children don't like change, they do adapt well to it, BUT as a general rule, they don't like it.

I agree with getting rid of all the diapers. I had to do that. My son didn't do the pull-ups. We went straight to the underwear. He didn't want to wear them. I ended up taking him to the store and let him pick out the ones he liked. I had originally purchased the solid white ones, but when we got to the store and he saw the colored/designed ones, he picked out the ones he liked and we got them.

He did still try and resist the potty training, and would wet/mess on himself until one day when he brought me some baby powder, diaper and a washcloth and told me, "Mommy I pooped. Change my diaper." (he was wearing undies) I looked straight at him and told him to follow me. I took him to the bathroom and said, "Now you will clean yourself, I'm not doing it any more. Call me when you are done so we can make sure your hands are washed." He cried the entire time, but he did it and never pooped his pants again. That was the day I decided ALL the diapers had to go. I had kept some around for night time, but decided it was best to just take the full leap.

Anyway, your son is saying that it is hurting his penis. He is used to his penis being inside a diaper and that feels totally different than underwear, so what he is saying is pain may not be pain, but simply a "different" feeling. Same with the pull-ups- they are diaper like, BUT not the same as the diapers he's used to wearing. Like I said, children don't like change, and for your son this is a big change.

This is a case where persistance and patience is needed. You will have to stand your ground sweetie. He'll eventually get it. Good luck!

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Old 04-24-2009, 02:37 PM   #4
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Re: # year old refuses to wear underwear or pull ups.

Sounds like you have quite a strong willed child, like my daughter was. She will come up with any excuse to get her own way....she knows she's not allowed to sleep with us in our bed anymore, so she tries the "mommy can I snuggle you" thing, and in the past it has worked because she's so sweet about it...and if that doesnt work, its "I had a bad dream"... the list goes on, she knows she will get her way if she can convince me she is hurting or is going to be harmed in some way...its normal for a mother to NOT want your child to be in pain or hurt in any way...but my daughter plays me like a fiddle over it! And I agree with the others, he doesnt want to change and he knows that if he tells you his penis hurts, you will do what you have to do to make him comfortable (even if it means wearing a diaper) Ive always wondered how a male can deal with that in their pants all day, just kind of "there" but I agree with everyone in getting rid of the diapers altogether and lett'n him realize he HAS to wear underwear. Take him to the store and let him pick out his own...maybe get him boy boxers....they are loose and wont be as constricting on his penis.....
good luck!

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