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Old 10-04-2017, 05:15 PM   #1
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How not to be sad about having chronic pain though.

I have chronic pain for awhile already. It is hard for me to deal with. I try not be sad about it though I just can't ya. I wonder if it will be ok later ya. For those who have chronic pain how do you not be sad about having it. I know it it is something I am sad about it. I don't want to do things I like to do with it. Can anyone give me some advice about it. Thanks.

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Re: How not to be sad about having chronic pain though.

Hi - I am sorry you are having so much pain. It sucks. As far a how I try to fight the sadness of facing the rest of my life limited in what I can do and what I can enjoy is to STOP looking at my whole life. I focus on what I can do. I can still work full time. I can still drive my own car. I can still shower and dress myself. I can still grocery shop with one of my adult daughters along, and can cook up a terrific pot roast. I can even go to water aerobics 3-4 times a week to keep my diabetes in check an keep me off insulin.
Do I have to take meds? Yes. Do I have to plan ahead to make sure I don't overdue it? Yes. Does it HURT? YES. But I got up and did it.
I am scared of the future of pain medicine - but TODAY I can just cope the way I know how.
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Old 02-23-2018, 02:22 AM   #3
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Re: How not to be sad about having chronic pain though.

Hello, gal3323
I'm sorry you're having such a rough time. I've been dealing with chronic pain for almost 15 yrs now and I can assure you that I'm in such a better "head space" now.
I felt useless. I was no longer able to work a job I absolutely LOVED and busted my butt to get ahead in, I was unable to do the activities I once enjoyed, etc, etc, etc!!! I went from living a full life to having a semblance of life and it was extremely difficult for me.
Try not to isolate yourself, surround yourself with positive people, find new activities you're able to enjoy, and don't beat yourself up about it in any way!!! Know there will be days you'll have to push thru the pain, and if you're unable, try to remind yourself there will be days like that.
I asked my pain management Dr if he'd refer me to mental health. Just talking to somebody helps. I, also, started meeting with my pastor and that helped me immensely!!! He put me in touch with the women's bible study group. They were extremely supportive, even when it was physically impossible for me to show up!!! If you're not into church, find another type of goes back to surrounding yourself with supportive people and NOT isolating yourself!!!
Good luck and NEVER give up!!!

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Old 02-23-2018, 11:33 AM   #4
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Hi there and so sorry you are having a hard time. I to have chronic pain and I try to focus on what I still can do.
I do not like to sweep and mop and years ago I could just zip right thru it, now I have to pace myself`sweep then take a break`then mop!
Honestly to stop the sadness of it all I aviod negative self talk in my head and try to picture and think good positive thoughts, ect.
While it did not happen over night things did get better and I felt more happy and positive.
Best wishes to you (hugs)
P.S. True to my username I also do retail therapy ( you guessed it`shoes)!!!
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Old 02-24-2018, 06:53 AM   #5
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Re: How not to be sad about having chronic pain though.

The best thing for me is to try and keep distracted, but my pain is nerve related and distraction tends to ease the pain as well. General tasking, going to work, playing with the kids etc. There are times though when sadness and frustration wash over me like a flood through a dam. When that happens, I will tell my wife I need some time alone, and then I go for a drive, take a walk around the mall, treat myself to some dessert, and gradually come out of the funk. Sadness is a normal reaction to living with chronic pain, understand that it will come and it's kinda necessary to let all those emotions out, but in a healthy way. I look at it as basically an emotional pressure valve that you need to open just a bit so you don't just burst. Of course, chronic pain can lead to depression and if that's the case or if you suspect that's the case try and keep active, minimize the sugar (but don't forget to treat yourself every once in a while), and of course see your doctor and discuss what options are best for you.

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Old 02-25-2018, 04:49 AM   #6
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Sorry you are going through such a rough time! I have had chronic pain since 2004. I don't think we can avoid periods of sadness. For the loss of the life we knew and trying to deal with pain 24/7. When I start feeling really down, I try to force myself to do something. Whether it is just going outside for a few minutes or driving to a close store to look around some, for me, it seems to help a little. Hope this helps some!

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