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Old 12-01-2016, 06:18 AM   #1
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First steps

I needed to come on and post about a triumph I had this morning. For my entire life I have wrestled with codependency, guilt, caregiver tendencies ect...I have been reading the new codependency book and have been writing down on paper what I am responsible for to my husband, my family, and myself. This was so eye opening. This morning for the first time ever I truly stood up for myself. I usually spend my mornings in a tizysf rushing to help everyone, let my husband sleep in, and try desperatelyrics to get everyone ready, lunches packed breakfast made ect..this leaves me late for work with no breakfast or packed lunch and a wet head that it inappropriate for work. I go to work feeling aweful and anxious. This morning I was exhausted from to many mornings of getting up too early and stayEd up to late listening to my husband. I asked him for help and he said no...no...after always thinking of everyone before me I had enough. I got myself ready and a non rushed pace, made myself breakfast and lunch dried my hair and even put on make up. The kids got dressed on thier own and managed just fine. My husband was upset because he had to get up. I stated I needed his help and he refused I am not going to apologize for letting you know my needs. I matter. I'm just as important as you. I'm making myself a priority. I know it's a tiny step but I feel empowered and in control for the first time ever.

 
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