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Old 03-24-2017, 07:25 PM   #1
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lanie405 HB User
Exclamation Bail brother

Hello. I am 38 yo. I have been independent from my biological family and moved hundreds of miles away from them over 20 years ago. They are dysfunctional and I was sent away to facilities because my parents were not able to take care of me from 12-19. I have 4 siblings. I am a middle child. My mother died when I was 8. I was responsible for my 2 youngest siblings when I was at home only when someone no longer felt like being responsible. Well my youngest brother who was 36 recently died 3 months ago from a tragic accident.

My other younger brother who is 37. Was released from jail a little over 8 months ago into my custody. I agreed to do this temporarily even though not one of my parent or siblings would ever help me when I was younger. I was the scapegoate and still to this day seen as the messed up one. I raised myself I put myself through 11 years of college I held the same job until recently for over 11 years until I was diagnosed with a rare blood disorder. My father said I was making it up too and I was not sick. I am sick. I have 6 doctors and drive myself every month over 1,000 miles for treatments.

My bother has no money no car nothing.... he has not paid for anything to help with bills. My father is cruel and says that I am responsible for him and hangs up on me and says I need to be nicer to my brother. It's not fair. I cry almost everyday. My doctors have documentation that I can't do this any longer. He eats my food, uses my toothpaste toilet paper and takes everything from me. I feel like I'm being abused. I have spent 10,000 of my money I saved up to send my son to camp and get him a car because he earned this. I can't do that because my brother needed to live. I went to a lawyer and distric attorney and begged to have him out. I feel my family of origin is using me. I recently became very ill and not able to work. I live off unemployment. No one seems to care including my brother that this is killing me. I want him out.

The district attorney will not change custodianship and I am being forced to take care of my adult brother who made poorchoices and sold drugs. No one has given me a free ride.... ever. I moved away as soon as I was legally able to get away . I was told by all these people who were supposed to be supportive that I was a failure.

I agreed in a court to do this temporarily... 8 months later he's still freeloading and ate my dinner. Who does this to people!!!

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