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Old 05-14-2011, 11:07 AM   #1
Join Date: May 2011
Location: St. Louis
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new guy needs help

I can't believe how time flies .

In the past 2 weeks I attended 2 coda meetings, and the information I took home with me through people's own experiences has been helpful but I feel I need more help.

I havent admitted the full truth about my codependency's

I feel I am in hell. I probabally crossed many lines. I have develope close loving feelings to a room mate and it became sexual.

I wanted more, but the other person did not, and even asked me if I was ok with doing this stating he wasn't relationship oriented at the time in their life.

This person suffers from Ptsa and I just give a dam about them. They have made some irresponsible choices in the past and I spend a majority of my time trying to prevent him from making bad choices.

I did express my feelings toward him but have felt so inadequate with myself since then. We have a bond like any true friendship would. I want more, I give a dam for his well being. I bought most of this out in the open with him and he felt it was best to stop our sexual relations as well.

During this time I all my other wounds have bled out of me. I have issues with how people precieve me in social circles. I constantly compare myself to others. My anxiety level in the mornings when I wake are at high levels.

I see a therapist, a psychiatrist who treats me for ADHD.

I dont seem to shake this well and it has affected my other friendships. This has got a grip on me where I need to let go but its so hard to step out of my safety zone and go and do things with others. I just want to be near the person I care about.

I also have jelousy & insecurity issues when this person branches out and socializes with other people besides myself.

I just wont give my head a rest and learn to let go. There is one coda meeting a I fully comfortable (gay and lesbian friendly ) than others. I just wish they met more than once a week.

Its difficult to concentrate on my work when I am away from home and its been difficult to work on myself.

I think I have said enough

I would like some positve input here. I am also seeking a good psychiatrist that is more familar with adult adhd.

I am not sure if talking to a psychologist vs a therapist is bettor or not ??

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