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Old 01-23-2017, 12:52 PM   #16
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Old 01-23-2017, 03:15 PM   #17
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I feel so terrible I was such a jerk. And all this time he was trying to get my attention.

 
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Old 01-24-2017, 06:31 AM   #18
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you're going thru the stages of grief.......guilt is one of them.....
don't beat yourself up.

 
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Old 01-24-2017, 12:54 PM   #19
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Re: I can't let go of a love interest?

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you're going thru the stages of grief.......guilt is one of them.....
don't beat yourself up.
Its just hard, you know? So many unanswered questions its not fair. Maybe he knew his time was near and wanted one more chance to see if I'd ever date him. He said once I wanted a bf again that I'd forget about him.

 
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Old 01-25-2017, 06:21 AM   #20
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Re: I can't let go of a love interest?

it almost seems to me that he may have been a little bit manipulative.....the comment about forgetting about him.....what do you think?
manipulative.....depressed......

 
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Old 01-25-2017, 06:58 AM   #21
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it almost seems to me that he may have been a little bit manipulative.....the comment about forgetting about him.....what do you think?
manipulative.....depressed......
Possibly, if he had issues I would have definitely wanted to know them because I'd want to help. I wish he would have told me.

Wasn't the first time he said he liked me. We went down this road before 4 years ago.

 
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Old 01-25-2017, 01:55 PM   #22
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Feeling guilty about his death. He was so persistent with asking me out that it makes me wonder if rejecting him pushed him over the edge.

 
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Old 02-04-2017, 07:52 PM   #23
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Re: I can't let go of a love interest?

Honey, what ifs can make us crazy.

Don't do that to yourself. Honor your friend by remembering the precious time you got to share. The finality of death is what is so harsh for we who are still living. Of course you need to take time to mourn what might have been. But you have nothing to be guilty of.

I guarantee you that he had his own list of regrets. If he was anything at all like what you wrote about him he wants you to go on with your life and build a good life for yourself and be happy. Whatever you do, don't create a list of 'what ifs'. That can eat you alive.

Dwell on what joy you did have for awhile and let him move on...it was just his time, sweetie.

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