Spouse has depression & anxiety
My husband has had depression/anxiety for well over 10 yrs. He has seen several Dr's, therapists etc. He's on escitalopram, lorazepam, and bupropion. I don't know what to do anymore. I have sent him to so many Dr's and even went to a social worker WITH him. He's fine for a while and then takes it all out on me. We are married for 42 years. It is at the point now that I'm afraid to even talk because it will send him into an anger fit of rage. The slightest thing gives him anxiety. Driving a car, discussing a home project, even going grocery shopping. Today I asked him how he was going to install the security system he just bought. I mentioned that I didn't think any wires should show in the front of the house. I was immediately accused of controlling, sickening and I'm the reason he's got anxiety. I need to just answer "yes" or "no" otherwise just "shut up" The last time he went to his psychiatrist, I sent a note asking him if the medication is doing this to him or is it not enough? My husband, of course, came back furious. Told me the Dr laughs at me. I don't think that is true, but I'm not getting a response from the Dr, that is for sure. If I call the Dr up, he will return my call and my husband will hear it. I'm afraid of that. I'm a shell of myself. I want him better but I can't take this anymore. I know a lot of times depression in families ends up in divorce. Sometimes I wish he would just leave. Is this what happens in depression? Do they take everything out on the spouse? My health just can't take this anymore. What do you suggest about getting through to his Dr? Do I make an appointment to see him myself to discuss this? So many questions. Thank you for any response. I have no one to turn to.
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