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Old 10-09-2006, 03:48 PM   #1
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emotional numbness...please help

i need some general advice. not sure if this is the right forum but....

i had a very hurtful relationship about 7 years ago. since then i feel that i cannot become attached to another person. mostly with boyfriends of course. when i date (and i've dated quite a bit in the 7 years), i feel like i am numb...cannot become attracted to the person....cannot connect emotionally... etc. i feel that i'm not as supportive as i'd like to be..intimate.. etc. what i usually end up doing is picking apart the guy i'm with and i eventually "run" in the other direction. i haven't had a truly serious relationship in 7 years. i don't feel that i know how to love anymore and it's very sad to me. the rest of my life is fine. i still find joy in many aspects of my life (work, traveling, friends, hobbies, etc etc). i just feel like i am no longer dating material and i don't know how to reverse this behavior. i've seen a psychologist and i will be making an appt to go back but i was looking for some advice or maybe even some OTC herbs that could help me reverse this ridiculous behavior / thought process. thanks.

 
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Old 10-09-2006, 06:45 PM   #2
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Re: emotional numbness...please help

In my opinion it sounds like you need counseling more than a medicine fix.

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Old 10-09-2006, 07:24 PM   #3
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Re: emotional numbness...please help

thanks for the advice. i do plan on going back to the psychologist. i just hope this is "fixable" because i'm beginning to feel like i might be like this forever.

 
Old 10-23-2006, 10:51 PM   #4
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thanks for the advice. i do plan on going back to the psychologist. i just hope this is "fixable" because i'm beginning to feel like i might be like this forever.
Just wanted to wish you good luck with this. You are "fixable", I promise, you are. I'm fighting numbness and can't connect with others too. I'm in a fog and it isn't fun.

Good luck again.

 
Old 10-24-2006, 05:15 AM   #5
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Re: emotional numbness...please help

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i had a very hurtful relationship about 7 years ago. since then i feel that i cannot become attached to another person.
This is one of the reason i think i am like i am today. Although i wasn't in the relationship for long. where i was so young at the time and he was much older it effected me really badly. I didn't even realise this until about a year ago. It was one of those things that i blocked out and pretended did not happen. But now i have tried to come to terms with it all, as i have finally seen that what happened to me back then is effecting my relationship today. I am currently am waiting to see a counsellor and when i do get to see them this will be one of the things i feel i MUST talk about. I think if you talk through it you can then get on with your life today.
I find it hard to be close to my current partner. I feel emotionally de-datched sometimes and find it hard to have a sexual relationship. And this to her is rejection...i beat myself up about it because i don't want to think i am rejecting her. Which i am not. It's not that i don't love her or find her attractive. It's just something inside me that is eating away and i hate it with a passion.
anyways sorry for blabbering. all ican suggest to speak with someone baout what happened in your past. that way you hopefully will be able to get on with your future.

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Old 10-25-2006, 06:11 PM   #6
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Re: emotional numbness...please help

Fear of intimacy?

 
Old 10-25-2006, 07:05 PM   #7
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Re: emotional numbness...please help

Any relationship that lasts that long will have an effect whether good or bad. Try the counseling before looking for a med to "fix" it. I strongly suggest you do that. Hope all goes well!!
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