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Old 03-25-2017, 10:39 AM   #16
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Re: Confused and hurting

I now have 3 text messages and a missed phone call from him.

Everything I read says, if I contact him back to reaffirm 'No Contact' that it is just playing into what he wants...

 
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Old 03-25-2017, 03:38 PM   #17
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Re: Confused and hurting

I caved and messaged him back. He is claiming that he did not dump me. He texted that we say things we don't mean when we are angry and he wants to talk.

I told him not to contact me unless it is bill/house related. He said he will contact me.

 
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Old 03-27-2017, 08:33 AM   #18
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Re: Confused and hurting

if you're sure you want this relationship over continue the no contact. If you're thinking there may be a chance to work things out, I think you've scared him enough, shook him up enough that he MIGHT begin to behave......
you know him better than I do, obviously, but it's your call.

 
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Old 04-08-2017, 04:34 PM   #19
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Update: We scheduled a meet to talk yesterday in a public place, 4 weeks since I moved out. I was 20 minutes early and he was already there waiting at a table. I couldn't help myself and started crying as soon as I sat down. He made a meek comment about that not being a good sign. The whole thing was sad, depressing, and we were both crying; after 10 minutes we both agreed to leave. He left it with, "You have made up your mind. I will do whatever you want."

He started texting me about an hour later. I texted that I was on the way to test ride a horse for his mom. He said to be safe. Later I emailed his mom and cc'd him how it went and my opinion on how the horse would work for her and the grand-kids (my niece and nephews). He sent about 6 texts total last night, all were nice and logistics related.

He texted another half dozen times today so far logistics and dog related. Wondering if I had a cell phone key (he just bought a used cell from a co-worker as a spare) and asking if we could meet up for him to see the dog. I agreed and he was already at the park when I got there. Him and the dog cuddled for a while, he used the cell phone key, meekly said "thank you" and left.

His mom emailed me about helping her pick out a bridle for the horse.

Apparently there has already been talk at work. People have been asking if he is single and his parents asked if I had left him, because his sister noticed my car hasn't been at the house in weeks.

I feel so guilty. He hasn't done or said anything to make me feel guilty I just do.

 
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