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Old 06-10-2013, 11:01 AM   #1
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I have been married for 38years and 8months,been thru 22years of his military career,moving all over with our 3 boys,he and i relocated in 2001 due to needing a fresh start ,i was foolishly thinking he would try to be faithful,i believed his lies.but here it is worse than ever,i married him just after i turned 17,was a very nieve girl.and by the way i have let him continually betray my trust i guess i should have just looked with my eyes wide seems according to what he chooses t tell 2of our 3 adult boys,i did nothing to contribute to our marriage,i was a very happy stay at home mother and army wife,once he retired i started having medical issues,which now i have trouble getting around i have knee and joint pain,and something wrong with my upper arm,can barely lift it 6inches.I found out by mistake about his newest adventure,he is having an online affair with a girl from ghana west africa-supposed to be ann angel the porn star,i tried telling him its a scam,she and her uncle scammed him(i have no access to any assets-all are in his name only)he has wired over 10,000 to her for 2gold bars!yeah it is a scam,everyone told him it is but he says she said shes not a scammer,well he has lost every cent we saved,it was supposed to be for my teeth to finally get our retirement,yeah that wont happen,we are completely broke,and he still texts her and talks to her online,he doesnt care if im there or not,it is breaking my heart,you see i have no living family except him and my sone,but 2think hes doing what makes him happy,the third son is in prison,no he has never gotten into trouble till this,he is the one that says his father is wrong for doing this,but i have allowed it,so its my own fault .love is blind.or for me it was,he told his sons that i wont find a job.and contribute to the house,well geezwe have 1car.and i have never drove -he says he want me to get my license,what will i use to do this,he have all our assets gone.also every thing that he has done it all my fault,i have never cheated .i have raised our boys while he was always away in the army for 22years.i am having medical issues along with the dental ones,it seems i dont matter,never did i guess,oh how blind i have almost 56 years old,i only know how to be a wife and mother,he is 61 ,i guess what made me realize its over is when he told our sons his ed is only with me.he no longer loves me as his wife,but thinks a 33year old porn star will want him.oh i hope he learns a lesson this time,but im sure he has other girls on his list when she gets every cent we have.

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Old 06-10-2013, 01:32 PM   #2
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Re: trying not to be bitter

please talk to a lawyer and get yourself protected......find out what you are entitled to and get your hands on it before he squanders it all away!

Old 08-25-2013, 05:40 PM   #3
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Re: trying not to be bitter

Let me say a big THANK YOU to YOU for supporting our military personelle, even if HE was undeserving of it. I don't think military spouses or family members get enough credit for helping people serve our great country.

I'm also very sorry that he's treated you this way. It's obvious he doesn't respect you now. He got what he wanted from you and now is going thru a late mid life crisis. It's sad how some people think so highly of themselves when in fact, they're being scammed.

You are worthy of a happy life.

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