It appears you have not yet Signed Up with our community. To Sign Up for free, please click here....

Exercise & Fitness Message Board

My partner can't seem to lose weight

Post New Thread   Closed Thread
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
Old 02-21-2011, 11:33 PM   #1
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Australia
Posts: 90
graces23 HB User
My partner can't seem to lose weight

My partner eats really healthy and quite low fat / calorie, and has pretty much all her life.

She's a vegetarian (well, she eats seafood, so technically an "aquatarian"), and basically this is her daily diet...

- Breakfast (6.30am) - a bowl of muesli with fruit, non-fat milk, and a black coffee

- Lunch (12.30pm) - a salad roll (turkish bread) with lettuce, tomato, cucumber, no butter (she has a tiny bit of hummus instead, or else nothing at all), twice a week she has a thin slice of cheese in it, and a chopped up olive

- Dinner (6pm) - mainly salad with either some tofu or a boiled egg or some thin slices of smoked salmon. Either that or a veggie & tofu stir fry.

- After dinner (6.30pm) - fruit with a small amount of non-fat yoghurt

That's it.

She walks everywhere as neither of us drive, she doesn't really drink, doesn't smoke, hardly ever eats any actual fatty or junky foods...and yet...

She's 5'3" and weighs 65kg, which isn't FAT but it's not slim and she does have a fairly large stomach. She does stomach exercises every night as well.

I eat the same dinners as her, and also have more food in terms of snacks. I also walk everywhere and don't drink or smoke, and yet I'm slim and find losing weight pretty easy.

The only things I can think of is that I'm 32 whereas she's 48 so her metabolism would be naturally slower and it'd be harder to shift any weight...and also the fact she hardly eats any fat and also eats her meals (with no snacks in between) quite far apart...this could be slowing down her body's rate at burning up the food as well...

But she doesn't really want to eat MORE in case it puts on weight instead of getting her body's metabolism up.

Any ideas? I've suggested she may need to do actual intensive exercise and not just walking...and I also suggested maybe eating more protein, but again, she's worried it might put ON weight.

Thank you!

Sponsors Lightbulb
Old 02-22-2011, 05:34 PM   #2
Senior Veteran
Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: NJ, USA
Posts: 9,365
Blog Entries: 32
janewhite1 HB Userjanewhite1 HB Userjanewhite1 HB Userjanewhite1 HB Userjanewhite1 HB Userjanewhite1 HB Userjanewhite1 HB Userjanewhite1 HB Userjanewhite1 HB Userjanewhite1 HB Userjanewhite1 HB User
Re: My partner can't seem to lose weight

It does get harder to lose weight as you get older. Still, that diet sounds like it's about 1000 calories or less. You haven't mentioned portions, but it might be a good idea to actually measure and count calories for a few days, just to have some specific numbers to work with.

More demanding exercise, especially weight lifting, could help. She might not lose on the scale, but she'd gain muscle and lose fat. This is usually noted as a decrease in pants size.

Last thought: has she had her thyroid checked?

Old 02-22-2011, 08:51 PM   #3
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Australia
Posts: 90
graces23 HB User
Re: My partner can't seem to lose weight

Thanks for replying

No, she's never had her thyroid checked...I kind of assumed with a thyroid thing, you'd be quite large and actively put ON weight no matter what you do...she hasn't really put on weight for about 5 years but just can't seem to lose it. She'll lose maybe 1-2kg (about 5lbs) but then if she so much as eats something slightly fattier than normal it'll all go back on again immediately.

Our portions are small to medium. Neither of us are huge eaters.

We've both kept food diaries at various times over the years, and she tends to eat around 1200-1800 calories per day, and about 30g of fat. I eat more calories and around the same amount of fat per day, but as I said, I'm 32 and find it easier to lose weight.

Old 02-23-2011, 11:57 AM   #4
Senior Veteran
Join Date: Dec 2008
Location: United States
Posts: 1,439
tjlhb HB Usertjlhb HB Usertjlhb HB Usertjlhb HB Usertjlhb HB User
Re: My partner can't seem to lose weight

Originally Posted by graceslick23 View Post
She does stomach exercises every night as well.
Spot reduction of body fat by exercising nearby muscle is not effective in a practical sense. It can make the muscles under the fat grow bigger, though.

A better approach to strength training is to include all of the big muscles like chest (e.g. pushups and dips), back (e.g. pullups and rows), and legs (e.g. squats) as well as core (e.g. plank and various crunches). Increasing strength and muscle will increase metabolism and counteract the usually-age-associated decline in metabolism (which is due to declining muscle among inactive people; such decline in muscle can also result in disability, as in older people being unable to get up out of a chair or being too weak to walk unassisted).

Closed Thread

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Board Replies Last Post
How much weight can I lose in 1 month? Newbie here! determined1 Exercise & Fitness 5 08-06-2006 08:13 PM
Is it possible to gain lots of muscle and lose lots of weight at the same time? Zebadee Exercise & Fitness 27 06-22-2006 12:29 PM
Can't seem to lose big butt volcomrxy21 Exercise & Fitness 13 01-19-2006 11:58 AM
How can TOO much exercise hurt??? katied1183 Exercise & Fitness 5 08-23-2005 10:12 AM
how can I get smaller hips/butt? AliasJaneDoe Exercise & Fitness 2 04-14-2005 09:01 PM
Can't seem to lose weight even though I am exercising Kayrey Exercise & Fitness 3 03-21-2005 07:43 AM
how do I lose weight on my theighs and my hips scaredcrazy101 Exercise & Fitness 4 05-05-2004 07:26 AM
I want to lose muscle i'mstuck Exercise & Fitness 2 03-30-2004 06:15 PM
Gym issue: can't do high weight low reps! YoungBuck1 Exercise & Fitness 8 03-10-2004 06:16 PM
Hmm..I can't seem to lose weight..actually I think Im gaining..but not sure.. Malik Ishtar Exercise & Fitness 2 04-21-2003 06:06 AM

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is Off
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

Sign Up Today!

Ask our community of thousands of members your health questions, and learn from others experiences. Join the conversation!

I want my free account

All times are GMT -7. The time now is 11:59 PM.

Site owned and operated by HealthBoards.comô
© 1998-2018 HealthBoards.comô All rights reserved.
Do not copy or redistribute in any form!