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Old 06-05-2008, 06:38 AM   #1
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Unhappy need help with fiance.

for some reason, i do not know why but i feel like my fiance is smoking crack. i dont know where i came up with this but it is really driving me insane. for the last week or so he has been acting really weird, he is not himself, he is being really ignorant towards me and he has been leaving out alot after work and he says he'll be here a certain time and he isnt etc.. the other night he said he had to stay out for the night to get his head straight and i cried and begged him to just stay home with me but he didnt even acknowledge my feelings. he says he is just really depressed and he has to "get away" to think about stuff. he acts really disoriented at times and for the past few days it has been hell trying to get him up for work. he goes to work but he gets up like 2 hrs later than usual. he doesnt answer my calls or my text messages like he sue to, he claims not to hear his phone etc.. could this be something else besides drugs, could this really be deep depression? just to let you know, cheating is not a factor, that has never crossed my mind. i just dont know what to do anymore.

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Old 06-05-2008, 07:36 AM   #2
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Re: need help with fiance.

Why do you think it's crack? Is there something that happened in the past that led you to this suspicion? There is definitely something going on but I need more info. in order to try to give advice.

Old 06-05-2008, 08:48 AM   #3
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No matter what the drug is, he is doing something. This is not normal behavior and if you see a change, he is using. Why do you suspect its crack must be because he used it before?

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Old 06-05-2008, 09:57 AM   #4
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Re: need help with fiance.

he has used heroin in the past for a brief time back in 2004. i dont know why i think its crack i just do,whay does it smell like? i thought maybe it was becasue he was really depressed and thats why he is acting like this. he does have depression issues. so could it possibly be depression or is it positively some type of drug ?

Old 06-08-2008, 09:10 AM   #5
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My dear...I hate to say's either drugs or another woman. I know that sucks but I've seen that behavior sooooooooo many times. When people start acting cagey...and disreagard the feelings of someone they love...well...what more evidence is there...All that matters in this life is how we treat others...really...and if he can't understand your needs than he is being completely selfish and that is where the drug addiction comes in. I had a very serious crack addiction but the difference was that I am single living abroad and there is no one to hurt but myself. I wish you all the best and God Bless you.

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