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Old 03-07-2014, 06:43 AM   #1
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Daughter's bunions

Hi everyone.

My daughter is 14 and when I last took her to the orthopedic surgeon a couple of years ago, he gave her a brace to wear at night and said she'd probably have to have have surgery to correct the more severe one. Since then, her father (we've been divorced for eight years) has become hostile towards me, refused to take responsibility for her wearing her brace when she was with him and eventually told her to 'just wear it at mum's', which made the entire exercise useless. Her bunions have gotten slightly worse but since she has chosen wider shoes since then, she doesn't have major problems. He has told her that she doesn't need the surgery and she's following what he says.

My concern is that they will continue to worsen and that if she has the surgery later, she won't recover as quickly. Additionally, I fear that when she decides to wear more feminine shoes that she won't be able to do so, but it's hard to convince a 14 year old that there might be a day when she wants to wear something other than sneakers. My daughter is not very sport-oriented, but I think she may want to wear dress shoes one day...

So, for those of you with bunion issues, I guess I'm asking you for your stories. From what I've read online, bunions only worsen with age and finding shoes that fit are an issue, nevermind the pain/lifestyle restrictions.

Can you please tell me if your bunions worsened with age? At what point did you decide that surgery was the option for you? Am I wrong in putting my foot down and telling her that I am not going to take financial responsibility for the surgery if she changes her mind? I'm concerned because her dad hasn't taken financial responsibility for her health insurance (I've always paid it) and he's now unemployed (again) which means that he probably won't be able, let alone willing, to cover it when she starts having real issues.

Many thanks for your feedback, experience and advice.

-A worried mom

 
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Old 03-08-2014, 06:10 AM   #2
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Re: Daughter's bunions

Yes, they can get worse. But the surgery at 30 is no worse than at 14. I wouldn't even worry about that. And I don't place much faith in the braces. They really don't do that much for the condition. Just let go of that argument. The bunions are obviously a structural issue and nothing can change that but surgery.

 
Old 03-08-2014, 05:11 PM   #3
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Re: Daughter's bunions

I had horrible bunions, crooked toes and you name it for a number of years and this threw my walk way off. When things were getting worse, I had the bunion surgery and the toes straightened out and that was well over fifteen years ago. I could see where the bunions were coming back and was very upset. I had had flat feet for years as well. When it looked as if I were headed to surgery, again, I found a wonderful physical therapist who has straightened out my feet, given me an arch in both feet and made all the difference in the world. People have bunions because the body from the hips on down is not operating properly and tendons and muscles are weak. As athletic as I used to be, I found this hard to believe when I first heard it, but have come to find out that this is true. The therapist has changed my life without surgery. I BEG you to stay away from surgery and orthotics are nothing but money makers for a certain field of medicine. I wore those for years and they kept having to be made higher and higher, which, in turn, made the muscles even weaker because the muscles were not working since they relied on the inserts. One's hips, total legs and feet must all be strong. Oh, I also had very weak ankles, so that I could not ski or ice skate or water ski years ago, but I thought the weakness was something I was born with and let it go. Since being treated my ankles are much stronger, the tendons in the ankles and the feet are much looser while before they were very very tight, which caused the foot to be malformed.

 
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