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boyfriend's father is dying (what can i do to help?) *feeling overly responsible*

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Old 06-29-2008, 05:22 PM   #1
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Unhappy boyfriend's father is dying (what can i do to help?) *feeling overly responsible*

yesterday, both me and my boyfriend found out from his sister-in-law (not his parents) his dad doesn't have long to live. i believe it's only a few months. his father is a heavy smoker who suffers from COPD and he is very stubborn. he figures he will die overnight and won't quit smoking... i just know he is going to have a painful death and it will linger my boyfriend and his family. i can't help but feel so horrible for my boyfriend. i reminded my boyfriend how i'm there for him whenever he needs me. i brought up some ideas of him and i going out to the movies, bowling, and so on... if he wants an escape. however, i'm wondering if there's anything more i can do? maybe i'm being a little hard on myself, but i don't know what i can say or do ... it's very hard to see my boyfriend hurting since his father's death will be related to his dad's smoking habits, which my boyfriend viewed not as death, but as a "slow suicide".
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Old 07-04-2008, 08:42 PM   #2
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Re: boyfriend's father is dying (what can i do to help?) *feeling overly responsible*

Hi, It sounds like your doing all the right things. Just take one day at a time. Be there for him when he needs to talk and the best thing to do is just listen. Your very caring and he will get thru this with you by his side. Misty

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