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My mother passed away suddenly

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Old 11-16-2011, 07:36 AM   #1
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My mother passed away suddenly

On Monday, I woke up to get my kids off to school and heard my dad yelling at my mom to get up. I went back, and there she was, just lying in bed the way she always does when she's asleep. She'd had a massive heart attack in her sleep and just...went.

I can't shake those few seconds. My dad sobbing and saying, "She's dead." And her just lying there in her nightgown, arm behind her head, the TV on, her heating blanket going full bore (she was always cold).

My kids and I moved back in with my parents after my husband and I started a divorce, about 7 months ago. I went from being a housewife to a full-time worker. My mom watched my kids everyday while I was at work/commuting, 6AM to 8PM.

She and my dad were married for 29 years. They just had their anniversary in September.

Her death has left such an enormous hole in our lives that I don't even know how to grieve. Over the last 2 days, I've had these episodes of extreme grief then I push them away so I don't lose it. And my poor father...he's just lost.

Thanks for reading. Sometimes, you just need to share.

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Old 11-16-2011, 09:51 AM   #2
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Re: My mother passed away suddenly

I just wanted to say how very sorry I am that your mom passed so suddenly. I know it must be a difficult time for all involved especially for your dad. I lost my mom when I was 11 years old and it was hard then and I still miss her. I hope you have comfort from friends and family and that you have a church family. God bless you all.

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Re: My mother passed away suddenly

your post brought such a tear to my eye. i remember being in your shoes a year ago. it was terrible and the only reason i made it through is because of my kids and my family. i know its hard but lean on your family but you also need to give yourself the time you need to cry... even if you dont want to do it infront of people u still need to cry even if you hide. i understand that fully too because i felt like i had to be strong for my younger brother. i know something that helped me was keeping a journal that i titled dear mommy. instead of writing dear journal or diary i would write dear mommy. it helped me out a great deal for the first year. some days i wrote in it 2 or 3 times a day sometimes i wrote in it once a day. it helped tremendously. if you need someone to talk to message me. again im so very sorry for your loss.

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