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AprylW 01-28-2012 05:53 AM

So... I'm getting REALLY tired of my Ectomorphic figure....
Hi....So, I'm having yet another issue, and I feel as though this one is my most important.

I am an Ectomorph...My physique can be described as extremely scrawny, bony, flat-chested, flat-bottomed, curveless, shapeless, devoid of figure, and generally RECTANGULAR. I am about 5' 6" tall, and I weigh roughly 120 lbs.

It's been proven as fact that it is the least attractive figure a person could have, at least in the polls.

I have tried for years to gain weight, to try to distribute any sort of fat throughout ANY part of my body. It isn't working, I guess because I don't know how to exercise or what to eat. Since I'm such a novice with how to keep up with healthy food, I mainly subsist on junk. I'm often on the go, and of course, all I can get my hands on in town, on my lunch break, etc., is junk, junk, junk. So I know I'm not eating right.

I don't understand why I'm not even gaining weight.

A friend of mine was recently pregnant, and though it did not work out for her, she managed to gain about 40 lbs, and she looks great from what I can tell. She is three years younger than I am. I was once pregnant, and thanks to my disgusting physique and physical limits, I was of course, unable to keep it [not a surprise, really, given my extensive track record of failure], since children obviously don't have the necessary equipment to give birth. Ergo, as I resemble a child...

My friend was pregnant for just over two months. As for me, the pregnancy only lasted a couple of weeks.

So now I keep thinking about these circumstances between her and I, and I feel as though I am permanently stuck in the body of a 10 year old boy. I don't even feel as though I've hit puberty yet. I have, but that isn't the point. I am constantly mistaken for a teenager when I'm actually in my mid-twenties.

I feel completely freakish, prepubescent, boyish, unhealthy, and disgusting. I look nothing like a REAL woman, I feel nothing like a real WOMAN. I'm at my wit's end, and I'm not sure where to turn first, so I came here.

Does anyone know of any good sources of info on how to work my body into something aesthetically appealing? At least just for myself?

Is there a way to do this sort of workout AND attain ''curves?'' I read that the next shape up from the ectomorphic is a meso[?]morphic, and that is apparently the kind of body a woman with properly working hormones will have.

And how can I keep from getting too muscular? Is there a good ''stopping point?''

I'm tired of being ugly. I'm tired of feeling ugly. I'm tired of wanting to puke whenever I look in the mirror. I'm tired of what I am. I have been a wreck over this for days, and my mother is beginning to think I have BDD. Maybe I do. Then again, with her BDD assumptions come the ridiculous kind words she offers but fails to help me with.

Once again, please refrain from the cotton-candy crap about ''all bodies are beautiful.'' In my case, you are wrong or lying, I am not attractive, that is that.

Friends ask me, ''How did you get so SKINNY?" My husband and family tell me I'm ''beautiful,'' but the truth is, their opinions on this matter are meaningless. Simple as that. They are incorrect. Generally, though, I suspect most people are just trying to be nice, working hard to protect me from the truth that any ''beauty'' I might ''have'' is on the inside, and that's it. Sort of like an adult responsible for terrible art, and his best friend showers him with compliments just to avoid crushing the painter's spirits.

If it is one thing I hate, it is being complimented. So please don't. Save it for an idiot. My goal is to achieve a BEAUTIFUL body. Something worth looking at. Thanks.

JohnR41 03-20-2012 03:58 PM

Re: So... I'm getting REALLY tired of my Ectomorphic figure....
If you want to do something about your situation, why don't you start by eating a healthy diet? If your problem is hormonal, a healthy diet might prove to be a step in the right direction. Provide your body with what it needs to function properly.

amike25 03-22-2012 09:55 PM

Re: So... I'm getting REALLY tired of my Ectomorphic figure....
I agree with Johnr41 Ive know individuals in very similar situations and the diets they chose helped them achieve the goal they set out and now their confidence is soaring.

cyndi4cbs 06-12-2012 11:24 AM

Re: So... I'm getting REALLY tired of my Ectomorphic figure....
Wow! You seem really unhappy about your body. I think you have a case of the "grass is always greener on the other side" syndrome. Ectomorphs are gorgeous! Take Natalie Portman for instance! However, if you are unhappy there is plenty you can do about your ectomorph shape. I am a personal trainer and understand that you have a look in mind that you want. You mentioned that you want to put on some curves and muscle. But, you also mentioned that you only eat junk food! What are you thinking! In order to build a house you need wood, concrete, nails, ect. You can not build muscle without giving your body the proper nutrition to build muscle. Muscle is made out of amino acids and the vitamins and minerals in nutritious food. Likewise, if it was easy, everyone would look like Jennifer Garner in Alias! You have to put forth the word and dedication.

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