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Old 10-06-2009, 10:54 AM   #1
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Angry ignorant boyfriend about HSV1

So I told my boyfriend, that i have only been dating for a 2 months, that i get cold sores therefore I have HSV1. He flips out thinking that im going to give him herpes because we preform oral sex. I have been to the doctor about it and I know that im not going to give him genital herpes but he cant seem to comprehend that. He swears he knows what he is talking about although he is not the one that has been living with it for 21 years. of course im never going to kiss him or preform oral sex while i have a cold sore but i dont know what to tell him to settle his mind.

what should/can i tell him to make him realize that its not as big of a deal as he thinks?

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Old 10-06-2009, 11:54 AM   #2
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Re: ignorant boyfriend about HSV1

Even without an outbreak (cold sore) you can pass the virus to him with oral sex. You can have hsv1 in the genital region. It prefers the above the belt location but can live below the belt as well.

Old 10-06-2009, 01:01 PM   #3
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******** the herpes handbook on the web for free and let him read it so he can get educated on hsv1 and hsv2 and this way he understands the process we all go through. good luck and if cant adjust to it, then he aint the right person for you. take care and be well.

Old 10-06-2009, 01:27 PM   #4
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I have to agree with Cal Girl, you can't put his mind totally at ease, even though the chances are less likely, there is still a possibility that you could pass it to him.. I would not push him, get some written documentation on Herpes and how it is transmitted and you and him go over it together. No matter what you think it has to be his decision.. I am sorry you are going through this but you need to give him some time. Take care.

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Re: ignorant boyfriend about HSV1

I agree with the others.. its not that big of a deal especially to us that have it. Has he been tested?

Even when there are no signs or symptoms you can still transmit the virus so it does look as though your boyfriend has done some reading up on it which is a good thing he seems a bit educated.

It's ultimately his decision and like it was mentioned before don't try to push him.. if he is meant for you it will work out.. if not then I am sure you will find someone else

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