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    Old 01-06-2016, 12:14 PM   #1
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    Need some advice

    I've just found out today that I'm HIV positive! I'm absolutely devastated and my head is all over the place, I don't know what to do or what to think. I feel sick! This is my worst fear and its come to life!

    I'm so paranoid and anxious about everything anyway, I just know this is going to tip me over the edge, I just want some reassurance! I keep thinking I'm going to die now I've been diagnosed, I feel healthy and had no warning signs. So glad I went and got tested but I'm also hoping I wake up and it was all a dream!

    This is the worst thing that has ever happened to me, And I just want to know if anyone else that's HIV positive would like to give me some advice on how to cope! Really struggling here and its day 1.


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    re: Need some advice

    sorry to hear the bad news..
    it is really not as bad as you think
    i had those same thoughts and feelings when i got it and
    today i laugh at how wrong my thoughts were at the time.

    first thing is you are not going to die anytime soon
    if you follow what the doctors tell you.
    i thought that same thing and 17 years later
    i'm still not taking a dirt nap yet!

    about my only major complaint is the never ending doctors appointments
    but alot of that for me is my own doing as
    i've been a HIV study patient for as long as i've been infected.
    i'm also involved in more then one study
    so i go to a few different doctors.

    today the only time i even think about HIV
    is when i take my meds or have a doctors appointment
    or i come post on here.
    besides that i don't give it very much of my time
    i have much better things to do then to dwell on something
    i cannot fix or change.
    once you accept it and get past that
    you will have the mental part of it beat.
    it takes some time for that to happen.

    if i had only 1 thing to tell you
    it would to be very careful who you tell.
    i learned the hard way early on.
    went in and told my job
    a few months later i was looking for another job.
    they cut my hours soo much i didn't have a choice.
    i know why they cut my hours and it wasn't from work being slow.

    once you give it up you can't take it back.
    there are many uneducated people that don't understand it
    and they fear it.
    so much they even make up bad laws about it.
    it is one of the most misunderstood things out there.
    after i had a few bad experiances
    i tell almost no one.
    one family member and 1 friend
    i keep it simple and uncomplicated.
    it just makes it easier without any drama.

    if you have any questions just ask or
    you can pm me help at any time
    i would be glad to help.

    Old 01-08-2016, 08:01 AM   #3
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    Thank you for your advice, I've taken a couple of days off work. I feel a lot better than I did when I found out, I still think I'm in shock. I've finally stopped crying! But I'm ready to go back to work. I won't be telling anyone! I know this is going to change my life, I've just got deal with it and hope it all works out. Thanks for your kind words.

    Old 02-01-2016, 04:23 PM   #4
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    re: Need some advice

    hi sorry for your diagnosis, how long did it take you to test postive for HIV since your encounter with the HIV?

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