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    Old 08-16-2011, 02:26 AM   #16
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    Hi kitty
    Why do you think i dont trust her?I just think its strange that i asked her two days before we split if something was wrong,she just said it wasnt me,then when i finished it,she could tell me about the hormone problem.I do believe her,because she didnt seem happy for weeks before we split,and she did have night sweats,and struggled to sleep,which just wasnt like her.
    As for time apart we have been split up for two and a half months now,do you mean we should just not see each other?not sure what that would prove?
    again thanks for your reply,much appreciated.
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    Hey, mikee

    Well, you said before that you thought she wasn't telling you everything. That kind of seems like a trust issue. Plus, you seem so unhappy and think that you'll never get back together. That's why I mentioned time apart. I wasn't aware that you had been split up for two and a half months. I might have missed that in previous posts. My apologies.

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    Old 08-17-2011, 12:01 PM   #18
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    Hi kitty
    Not sure if i said in previous posts how long we had been split up.Yeah its been just over two and a half months,and yes i do find it difficult to believe the hormone stuff,part of me believe,part of me doesn't,i just dont know what to think,she said a few weeks back that she would like to think that if she feels better in say 6 months that maybe we can talk about getting back together,i just dont know why,if she feels the same about me now,that we are not together,she said its not fair on me.It all just seems odd now.We do get on ok,and we still see each other,she does seem happier,but i dont mention getting back together,or talk about it,i dont ask about medications,doc appointments,or anything now.I think in the long run,i am better off out of it,i tried to help/understand,but if she doesnt want to let me in there is nothing i can do

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    Old 08-17-2011, 10:08 PM   #19
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    Hi, mikee

    Well, I can understand what she's saying that 'it's not fair on you'. I'm presumming she doesn't want you to be unhappy having to deal with her not wanting sex? Since you say that she seems happier, I'm thinking it must be the other. Correct me if I'm wrong. I'm in the same predicament with my husband, only my mood is bad as well. I feel I'm a failure as a wife and I feel he's miserable even though he claims he's not. He doesn't have to say anything. I know he's not happy. My plan is to find employment and move out temporarily (hopefully not permanently) until I can straighten things out with myself. I feel a lot of tension here whether he approaches me for sex or not. I don't know if this is good advice or not. I just wanted to maybe try and explain what she may be feeling so you could better understand what's going on with her. Again, I may be way off base, though, so please feel free to clarify.

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    Old 08-18-2011, 10:26 AM   #20
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    Hi kitty
    thanks for the reply.

    I didnt quite understand what you meant by this in your post? "Since you say that she seems happier, I'm thinking it must be the other".From what i can remember about what me and her have talked about,i think she means its not fair on me if she is moody and biting my head of all the time,and she said its not just me she does it to,that she does it to other people,but i cant say i have noticed her doing it to anyone else,but she did say that to others she puts a brave face on,so they dont know,where-as i know whats going on.As far as i know she hasnt said its not fair on me because of her not wanting sex,but i think that it might be part of it,but she just hasn't said it.The last time we spoke about it which was almost 3 weeks back she said "my head is in such a mess at the moment,some days i dont see the need to carry on (suicide)i said do u really feel like that,she replied "sometimes" and she said she thought she might be feeling better by now,as its been nearly 3 and a half months,i can see it gets her down somedays.
    Sorry to hear about your situation,i should think its a very difficult situation to be in.Why do you think you are a failure?i am wondering if thats how my ex feels,she has always said she can take sex,or leave it.Do you think she could be in the menopause?she still hasnt said what hormones are causing the problem.Do you think moving out is the best way for you?i guess it must be hard when you are married,not easy to walk away from.
    It is good advice,it gives me something to think about,hearing from somebody who is going through possibly the same thing,gives me a little insight into what might be going through her head.
    Hope things improve for you soon,your thoughts are always welcome here.

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    Old 08-22-2011, 11:31 PM   #21
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    Hey, mikee, you're welcome again. Thank you for your kind words too. They're much appreciated.
    I'm sorry I've been away so long, just been feeling really crap.

    I had just meant before that you said she seems happier, so maybe the sex stuff was the reason why she said it wasn't fair on you, just speculating. Like I said before, most likely she's in peri or premenopause (the years leading up to menopause). It's common for women in the late 30's to go through this. However, I was just reading over on the menopause board the other day about a woman who had said her mother had gone through actual menopause at age 37. So, it's not unheard of. It's just extremely rare. When the mother went through it is usually a good prediction of when the daughter will experience it. Does she know when her mother went through it? I might have asked you this before. I can't rememeber, brain fog.

    She may be snappish with others and you don't notice. I just know that often times we hurt the ones we love the most. At least that's how our situation is. I get how she feels about not wanting to carry on. I feel like that often times myself. It just seems like I can't see an end to it and feel a lot of times my life is over and I'm just taking up space.

    I feel like a failure as a wife in that I never want sex. I have no desire for anything sexual. The situation is compunded too because I'm not attracted to him anymore. Like I said, though, I don't have a sex drive anyway, so obviously it's not all him. If I wasn't with anybody, I wouldn't care about sex at all. It's not even on my radar. We've basically been roommates for the last 8 months. Because of the depression, I don't clean like I should. So, I'm not even a good roommate. I just feel he deserves so much better than me. He says he doesn't want anybody else. Misery loves company I guess. As for the moving out, I guess that might not happen now because my car has decided to go on the fritz and I may need to finance a new one. So any job(s) I get will have to pay for a car payment. It's just one thing after another anymore I swear.

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    Old 08-24-2011, 11:43 AM   #22
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    Hi kitty

    sorry to hear that ur feeling crap,hope u feel better soon.and a big thanks for the reply again,finding your posts very interesting.
    I have been thinking about it lately,and i think you could be right about the sex stuff being why she is happier,and why she said it isnt fair on me.We never really had a great sex life,down to both of us really,but she has been saying for ages that she can take it or leave it,she said she doesnt really think about it,we were saying a few months before that its seemed more like a friendship,than a relationship.W e used to hold hands,and cuddle and kiss,but not much else,i just felt that i didnt want to push for sex,but i was happy with the way it was,i might have moaned about it a couple of times,but generally loved spending time with her,that was more important,and i still do.
    Regards when her mother went through menopause,i wouldnt ask,because she is a very closed,private person,i think that maybe my ex is in peri or premenopause,but she wont tell me,because maybe she feels embarrassed,or that maybe i will tell others,but i wont (i know that seems odd as i am on here talking about it)she just says she has hormone trouble,and that she has to keep going back for blood tests,she had one this week,and said she should have results by end of week,which i think is a bit quick?why would she keep having to have tests as well?surely they already know whats wrong.
    She did tell me a little while back that it isnt just me she snaps at,and that she does it to others,but i havent seen it,and she said some days she doesnt want to see anyone,not just me,and that there are two places she feels happy,at home reading,or down her stables.She said she has good days and bad days,and weeks,and she said that she hoped she would feel better by now,its been 4 months since she started medication.Have you been on medication for menopause?and how long do you think you have been in menopause? (sorry for asking)I feel that now me and her are not together that she feels the pressure is gone,as in she doesnt have to worry about the intamacy,and she just has the friendship left,and she can cope with friendship.We are getting on great,but i still am not sure what to do,i feel i am still trying to get the relationship back,and maybe i shouldnt,i do still see her about 4-5 times a week,but i am starting to think maybe i should just see her on a friday night down our local pub,we both go out friday nights,seperatley though,and see each other in there.Do you think i should maybe just back right off,and not have to much contact with her?maybe thats what she would prefer?how do you and ur husband cope,being as you still live together,it must be very difficult.I can relate to him when he says he doesnt want anyone else,obviously he loves u,but i guess he like me doesnt understand how you/my ex must be feeling,and how it affects you/her.I still really really want to be with her,but now i say nothing,and just hold on to the friendship.

    well sorry i have gone on,and again i hope you start to feel better soon,take care

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    Hey, mikee

    Sorry for the delay in replying. I was feeling very crap. I'm feeling better now for the most part. Thank you once again for your kind words and concern. I'm glad my posts are helpful, ur welcome as always. The better mood has came just in time for the weekend too. We're taking a trip north to a nice bed and breakfast. It's actually a romantic-type Victorian one (I love things from the past ) I don't expect to be romantic, but it's nice to get away. I'm just happy I'm feeling better moodwise. I would just like to be happy on a fairly regular basis. It would make dealing with everything else a lot easier. I'm so up and down. The other day I was crying at the gym (luckily nobody noticed) and yesterday I was angry and woke up a bear! So, I totally understand the whole wanting to be alone thing. You mentioned 'stables'. She has horses? Animals can be so therapeutic and calming.

    I took my mom to the doctor today, and while in the waiting room, she informed me that she started missing her periods at age 42. I'm 41! I went for a blood test on Monday. I find out the results in a week. Hopefully something shows on it. If everything's normal and they hand me a script for Prozac, I'm going to tell them to 'shove it!' Actual menopause, by the way, doesn't start until a woman misses her period for a full year. Sounds likes your ex is in the perimenopause, like me.

    I know how your ex feels about the sex thing, I can take or leave sex too. The sad part is, usually on the rare occasions (before 8 months ago) that we had sex, I enjoyed it. I just don't have the desire to. We did try the other night, but I felt numb (sorry if tmi). So that's a whole other issue. I just feel like I'm 'broke'. Our marriage is definitely more of a friendship. We used to cuddle and hold hands too. That stopped along time ago.

    Results from blood tests are usually back within a week. She has to retest periodically to see where her levels are at to see if her hormone meds need to be adjusted and how much. They say it can take up to 3 months to feel better once the dosage is right. I've been using progesterone cream since Jan '09 and think I might have finally got the dosage right, everybody's different. Keep in mind, too, that I'm not under a doctor's care for this and the cream I buy is over the counter. I normally test my saliva every 3-6 mons, though, to see where my levels are at. I just had to do the blood test this time because I didn't have the money for the sailva test. Insurance only covers blood tests. I've been told that saliva tests are more accurate for hormones, though. I intend to do the saliva anyway when I can just to compare the two. That should be interesting! I'll let you know.

    I guess just do whatever makes you comfortable. If you enoy seeing her (and it sounds like you do), you should do that. Try and not worry so much about having a relationship at this point. A friendship for now is better than nothing, right? Things will get better in the other areas with time. Don't base her prognosis on my situation. Remember, I'm not under a doctor's care. It also depends on her as an individual. As I said everybody's different and their hormonal deficiencies can vary greatly.

    As for my husband, he says he doesn't want to put his time and energy into another woman if we split up. I guess I've sucked the life out of him maybe. He does deserve better, though.

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    Old 09-03-2011, 05:24 AM   #24
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    Hi kitty
    Big thanks you for taking the time to reply,sorry to hear that you have not been to good hope you weekend away will be good for you,sounds like it will be a very much needed break for you both.

    I am not to bad,i have managed to find something out,it was written on a piece of paper and was on the table in my ex's lounge,its said that she has a thyroid problem,borderline underactive,so i am guessing its not pre-menopause?We went out last sunday night for a few drinks,and to watch a band,and she had a little bit to much,and tried to kiss me,i just gave her a kiss on the cheek,as i dont want to confuse things,she did say that two things that really help at the moment is"companionship,and hugs" i am not to sure what companionship is though.We did have a chat,and she told me what she had wasn't gender specific,and that they had found a new problem as to why she is always tired,and she said they gave her more medication for that,but she shouldnt take it until she has seen the specialist,which is in november,but she is taking it now.She keeps telling me that she is feeling alot better,but not quite as she used to.I am really starting to think that she just isnt interested in me anymore,i asked her if i popped round to much,or contacted her to much,to which she replied "no,not at all"i said tell me if i do.I spoke to her thus and said that i thought it could be thyroid,she just said "i'm not telling you" she then said that she had been told that she will get much better,and she said she thought that she was doing good now,i said to her that i thought we were not together because maybe she just isnt interested in me anymore,and i said it was kind of obvious,she asked "how is it obvious" i never answered that.i said if that was the case,and she wasn't that it would be ok to tell me,all she said was "do you not listen to anything i have told you"i replied "yes"she said the other week that she felt comfortable round me,and i think its just because i still help her out with things (DIY round home) that she still likes me.I am really not sure what to do now,i do think maybe it will be better for me to just walk away,i have tried to understand,and be supportive,and i am now starting to feel that i am just hanging round waiting for something to happen,but i know that its probably never going to happen.What do you think?

    thanks again
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    Hey, mikee

    Sorry it took so long to reply. It's been a rough week. The getaway was great. Didn't have sex (no surprise there). We did do some different things, though. We sat around a campfire and listened to poetry recitings and folk singing the first night. The next day we went on a guided nature tour. It was nice, outdoorsy stuff, very serene and peaceful. I didn't want to come home to the rat race again.

    I went for my follow-up on Tuesday and guess what? All my levels were supposedly normal. That's funny, I feel the furthest thing from normal! There wasn't even a range listed for testosterone. It just said <75, meaning if I'm under that, I'm fine. How ridiculous! My reading was '23'! My gyno said I was normal for it for a woman my age. I said, 'Really? I haven't had sex in 8 months and don't want it ever! That's not normal!' Call me crazy, but I think my T could come up just a tad! She said I could meet with their 'menopause practitioner' and she could give me some supplements IF she thought I needed them. My gyno doesn't prescribe the bioidentical supplements and creams, so I would have to see this new person. Well, you know that I wanted to toss the last doctor I saw out the window. I told my gyno I wanted to test my saliva first and see what that said, so I could compare the two tests (blood and saliva). I want to see an actual range for the T, so I can get a better idea of where I'm at with it. I have just about every single symptom of low T (except of course the ones pertaining to men). I even find I'm losing strength at the gym. Funny thing, though, when my gyno's office tested my testosterone 3 years ago, it was '23' back then too. Yet I actually wanted sex then. Back then, they went through a different lab, though, that actually used a range. It was something like '40-80' and mine was '23'. It's just been a really crummy week. I was also upset about my cat. Don't know if I told you or not, but my husband and I had to put her down 3 months ago (June 6). She was 17 and had liver disease. We had her and her sister since they were 2 months old. We don't have children, so they were our children. We're really hating the number '6' now. His mom died 12-6-10 and we had to put the sister of our cat down on 1-6-08. The 6th of the month is really hard on us now. To top my week off, a long-time friend of mine from my gym that I've known for 7 1/2 years, that I email regularly with, tonight decides he doesn't want to talk to me anymore and doesn't give me any reason why. He also said some pretty hateful things to me that I'm not going to repeat. He's said similar mean things in the past (a few years ago) and we had a falling out and then ended up patching things up. He's been on steroids pretty much since I've known him and he's very back and forth. I usually just avoid him when he gets a burr up his butt. I'm just about done with him this time, though, I've really had it. I don't deserve his insults, I didn't do anything to him at all. I have no idea where this stuff tonight is coming from. The only thing I can think of is that he got jealous of some guy coming up and talking to me today at the gym. Who cares??? I'm freaking married, he knows that. He's even met my husband, took us out for drinks before. I talk to a lot of guys at the gym and they're all just friends of mine. He's got jealous before when I've talked to them. So does this other guy there, too. He downright pouts and he's 35 y/o! He's not on steroids, he's just a bit squirrely I think. But, again, he knows I'm married too. My god, you'd think I was Helen of Troy the way they all act. Insane! If this guy wants to end our friendship, though, after all this time, that's his problem. If he keeps treating people like crap, he's going to lose a whole lot of friends. I guess he doesn't care, though, as long as he's still got his best friend Roid. I personally have enough on my overflowing plate as it is without having to deal with his immature butt. He'll be freaking 41 in a couple weeks, he needs to grow up already!

    Anyway, enough about me and my crazy life. Her underactive thyroid could be caused by a lack of progesterone in relation to the estrogen. If that's the case, thyroid medication is only treating a symptom of lack of progesterone and really doesn't solve the true problem. She really needs to get all her hormone levels checked if she hasn't already, especially estrogen and progesterone. As for thinking she's not into you anymore, I really don't think that's the case. She wouldn't be trying to kiss you if she wasn't. Peoples' true feelings come out when they're tipsy. I wonder, though, how can you listen to what she's telling you when she doesn't tell you very much? I'm sorry, that part just strikes me as odd. As far as what I think, though? I think you should do what you feel is healthy for you. I really don't think she's keeping you around just to help her with things, though. I do think she likes you still and is into you.

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    Hi kitty

    Big thank you for replying.
    Sorry to hear that its been a rough week for you,and thats why i am very greatfull that you continue to reply to my thread.It sounds like you had quite a nice weekend,its good to get away for a while,and just relax.Sounds like your not having much luck with the readings??all sounds a bit odd,how can it be normal if you feel the way you do?that doesnt make sense,is there anyone else you can speak to,maybe a second opinion.
    Sounds very strange about the guy who has decided not to speak anymore?so he never gave you any excuse?is he the jealous type then?but as you say he shouldnt be jealous especially if he knows that you are married,some people can be so funny at times,i have a mate like that,hates it if i have something he doesnt.

    As regards to my ex,i believe she has had various tests,and i think they are ongoing.I have been doing some reading online over the last few days about thyroid problems,one thing my ex says is that she is very tired all the time.She said she has some medication for the tiredness.She said she is still trying to deal with it all,i know its been just over 4 months since she told me about it all,she said she is feeling much better,but not quite how she used to.I think its the tiredness that is more of a problem,she says she doestn always sleep well,and she does sleep in the afternoons alot.what did you mean by this "I wonder, though, how can you listen to what she's telling you when she doesn't tell you very much? I'm sorry, that part just strikes me as odd" she teels me smalls things,i think the reason why she wont tell me to much is she is worried i might tell people.

    I did see her over the weekend,we went to a dance type thing,and we both got dressed up,we had a very good time.I said to her at some point in the evening that i still want to kiss her when i see her she replied "really" i said yes,but i dont want to do it in case u thump me,(meant as a joke)would you,she paused,then said "nope" with a smile,at the end of the night i walked her back to hers,and she invited me in for a drink,then she said "i'm off to bed feel free to sleep on the sofa" as she walked past me to go to bed,she gave me a kiss on the lips,and a big hug,and kissed me again,then went to bed.
    I have decided that i like being friends with her,i asked her the other day if i see to much of her,and se replied "no" and i do like having her as a friend,and we get on very well.

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    Hey, mikee -

    I just lost my entire post!!! Posting on a blackberry is such a pain! I'll try and remember what I wrote. Ugh!

    You're very welcome. I try and keep up with your thread as much as I can. Besides my so-called friend being an idiot, this week has been especially hard because of the full moon on Monday. They've always affected me since I was a child. Since the perimenopause started, though, they've been increasingly tough. I usually feel crap the day before or the day after the full moon. This month it was the day before so Sunday was really bad. Then of course you throw in the dingbat's crap over the weekend. By Sunday, I was really messed up. It seemed to drag out through the week too. I finally feel somewhat normal today. Good thing, our nephew is coming over tomorrow night. Btw, I'll pm you more on the nut and his drama later. I swear I have enough of my own, I sure don't need his too. He is jealous and the steroids amplify it.

    I'm anxious to test my saliva and see what the results are. At the same time, though, I'm not looking forward to it because I'm afraid it'll show up that everything's normal and that I'll feel like a freak because I feel like crap and will have no basis for it. I guess I'll just have to wait and see. I'll be meeting with the menopause practitioner at my gyno's office if anything's off. I don't know if she'll consider it or not, though, because they only deal in bloodwork. All I know is this will be the 3rd doctor I'll have seen for this mess. If I don't get any help, I'll have to most likely seek the help of a naturopath which is very expensive and of course not covered by insurance. I've just about had it with these stupid insurance doctors, though. Also, I don't know if I told you or not but my husband is also doing a saliva test. He is testing his estrogen. Guys have a small amount compared to women. I'm concerned, though, because excess estrogen is flushed out through the liver and I'm thinking his liver isn't functioning properly. He has a history of excessive drinking and his stomach is bloated. His bloodwork from a few months ago showed some liver enzymes that were off as well as some kidney things. Our 'mickey mouse' doctor claimed everything was fine, though. He wouldn't test his estrogen saying that it wasn't necessary for a man to test it and that insurance wouldn't pay for it anyway. I've never heard of anything so absurd. As a woman, I don't have near as much testosterone normally as a man but I have some and insurance pays for me to have it tested. Anyway, both our fathers died of complications due to alcoholism. So we know all too well the effects of it on the body. Another thing, my husband's testosterone is fine yet even though lifting a good amount of weight at the gym, he's not increasing in muscle mass. Which, again, makes me think too much estrogen.

    The tiredness is definitely a symptom of low thyroid function. It's also a symptom of low testosterone, though, as is a low sex drive. There's so many areas that need to be checked. When you're dealing with the endocrine system, lots of things come into play. I didn't mean to sound crass before and I apologize if I came across that way. Perhaps I should have waited to post until after I was through thick of my funk. All I meant by what I said, though, is that it doesn't seem like she tells you much and it seems to leave you wondering a lot. I guess she just tells you what she feels comfortable with, though. I can understand that. Why do you think she'd think you'd blab to people about things when you haven't in the past, though? I don't understand that.

    I have to say it brought a smile to my face when you talked about the kiss. That's definitely a step in the right direction. See, I told ya she stills wants you. I think it'll work out for you guys. Just reassure her (as I'm sure you already do) that you won't blab and that her secrets are safe with you.

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    Hi kitty
    thanks for the reply.Looking forward to the pm about your friend,sounds like he has some real issues going on.I have a mate who goes to gym,and he is on steroids,been a bit of a whacko since he has been on them,hardly see him anymore.
    Sorry u have been feeling rubbish again lately,do you get many good spells?times of any length where you feel ok?thats odd about the full moon affecting you,i have always wondered if the moon can affect the way we feel sometimes.I can understand how you might feel regarding your test results,would be horrible if they came back showing everything is normal,because if they were not at least you could have a sense of why things are wrong,do you see what i mean?an explanation of why you feel like you do.

    I know why my ex might think i would tell,we had a disagreement when we were out one night,i had,had a few drinks to many,and blurted something out that she had told me before,it was a stupid *** thing to do,so i can understand why she would think i might do it again,and i totally understand that,i have not told anyone about what she is going through now,but i know she feels i have.As regards the "kiss" i am trying not to read to much into it.We did go out last night,and i said to her on our way out "i feel as though i see to much of you" she replied "i dont think so,why you think that" i said "just a feeling i get"she replied "i have missed not seeing you the last few days" i said that i still liked her,and did she mind that i did se said "no,but i am a bit surprised" i said "why surprised" she replied "because of the way i am" i said it didnt make any difference to me.i asked if she still liked me,in the same way and she replied "yeah,i think i do" i said thats a no then,"why" she asked,i said "because you had to think about it"

    I am maybe feeling a little confused,because she still likes to hug me when i leave.she said she is still struggling with the tiredness,says if she has a late night,it takes two days to get over it.

    Well hope you start to feel better soon.

    Mikee

     
    Old 09-25-2011, 01:53 PM   #29
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    Hey, mikee -

    Yeah, he definitely has issues. He was okay back 7 1/2 years ago when I met him. I think he may have just started on them then. Now he's a nut, though. He's a just big ol' roid it seems. Sometimes he doesn't seem human even anymore. More of an animal, especially when he sees me talking to other guys. He seems like a tomcat getting jealous of someone moving in on his female. Haha. Were you good friends with that guy long? That's sad if you were.

    Once again, sorry for the delay in posting. Still feel like garbage. I had one or two days last week that I felt okay. This month has been horrible. Last month wasn't much better. I usually do get a break for a week or so and feel better. Lately, though. I'm not getting a break. It's a stretch to get off the couch (where I'm still sleeping) most of the time. The full moon hasn't been giving me any mercy either. I do the saliva this week and should have the results back in a week or so. It has to be mailed to another state that's far from us, then the results are mailed back. If my levels are off, I'll feel justified in how I feel. If not, I guess I'll take 5-htp (an amino acid sold at the health store) again for the depression. It works for the most part but I lose weight because it slaughters my appetite. I lost 7lbs. the last time I took it, so I stopped it. I'm not heavy anyway and can't afford to lose any more weight. So if I take it again, I'll have to find an herb to stimulate my appetite. It also can lower the sex drive, which I already have a problem with anyway. Unfortunately, it's the only thing otc that seems to help my mood, though, and I won't go back to scripts.

    Was that very long ago when you blurted stuff out? She'll eventually get past that, don't worry. Wonder why she said 'I think I do' about whether she still liked you? That seems odd considering what you said before about her kissing you. Maybe she feels she's leading you on because she kisses you yet doesn't want sex? Just speculating. I still kiss my husband every day even though I don't want sex, because I love him. We don't do any deep kissing though because that gets him going.

    I know exactly what she means about the late nights. I've had more than my fair share these past couple months and feel drained a lot.

    I hope I feel better soon too, thanks. I'd at least like those test results to show something so I have some validity to how I feel.

    Talk again soon,
    Kitty

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    Old 10-01-2011, 05:49 AM   #30
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    Hi Kitty

    Sorry it took me so long,been busy,thank you for replying and for sticking with this thread.

    It was a bout this time last year that i blurted the stuff out,but i think maybe she has a good memory,she is a very private person,and i dont think she can let that go,and i dont blame her.I am not sure what she meant when she said "i think i do" but my gut feeling is that she doesnt,not in the same way anymore,i think she is just saying it because its what i want to hear.i do have a feeling that she doesnt want the friendship to end,but she has said to me (a while ago) that if someone else comes along,that i shouldnt wait,and that she would want me to be happy.i said i wasnt waiting,and that i know we are only friends.I said that it was ok if she found someone to,i have said i still like her (recentlly) I think now i am going to try not to see to much of her,not ignore her,and not tell her,but just try not to be around her to much,as i am starting to find it more awkward,and i think she can sense that as well.
    I did say to her only last weekend that i feel the longer and longer it goes on the less likely it is we will get back together,she asked why i thought that,and i just said it was a feeling i had.

    So how have u been lately?how is roid man lol.

    Mikee

     
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