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    Old 12-04-2003, 06:56 PM   #1
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    Well this is OT so I am not sure I should be asking this question here. I have found everyone here seems to have enough life experience about most everything you might be able to give me a good opinion. If anyone is offended please let me know and I will not get off topic to this extent again.
    Anyway I am 47 and my husband is 51 we both have our birthdays in Feb. Anyway I have no sexual desire anymore so it really doesn't bother me if we never have sex. But my husband still seems to want to. Problem is he is probably having the equivalent of menopause. He isn't able to have sex like he use to. I try to get him to understand that things are not as they once were tells me it is my imagination. I almost dread being around him because we will get into the topic of sex. I am not usually afraid of talking about anything like this. But he is not facing up to reality. I feel selfish not just going along with his need to believe everything is ok. I have told him to ask his doctor about Viagra or something. If he is going to insist upon having sex. I am concerned if he ever does decide to ask he could have a heart attack or something like that from Viagra. I would rather have him around than dead. Does anyone have any experience with this kind of situation. Does any know about the safety of Viagra type drugs or getting through to a husband about the reality of life and body changes. Linda M

     
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    Old 12-04-2003, 09:20 PM   #2
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    Re: husband and Viagra

    All I know about Viagra is this....it was origionally produced as a blood pressure pill and once the men started taking them, they had hard-ons and and their sex life improved.... and now it is labeled as help for men that need it (erectile dysfunction). I would think that it would help men with blood pressure too, but some have had heart attacks from it...u know men, the heart attack probably came not from the high blood pressure but the effort in using that organ again. LOL! My husband has no diminished libido at his age and he wants to try that stuff to see if he can reach the "ultimate". Hahaha! He has no need for it I think, it's just what he sees in advertising. Sometimes us older women just need our rest!

    Note: I do love my husband and I do love our intimacy...and we have a great time but, I gave up cartwheels and gymnastics in bed when I hit 45. Just can't do that aerobic stuff anymore. LOL!

     
    Old 12-05-2003, 07:50 AM   #3
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    My hubby wanted to try it to but didn't want to have to talk to the dr. so we ordered some off the internet. You can go to Pfizer's site and get a trial sample. They do work and my hubby's been on bp meds for almost 20 years. The only thing you really have to be careful of is men that take nitroglycerin, that's when they get heart attacks. After he tried it and it worked so well he got up the nerve to talk to the doc about it and he gave him more free samples. Our insurance will pick up a little of the cost if it's prescribed. I'm with you on the point of trying to have sex when he's not physically capable of completing the act. We wrestled with the problem for 3 years before we tried the Viagra. I would recommend it to others who are having the same type problems that we were. I have not got a lot of desire myself but at least with the Viagra he's able to get satisfaction and it makes the situation "workable" at our house. The only problem my hubby had with it is when he takes it. If he doesn't take it before he eats at night it doesn't work well. If he takes it and then eats dairy-ice cream, cheese, butter or high fat it doesn't work at all, can't even tell he took it. So if he wants to have sex he has to leave off his ice cream. Not too tough a choice to make. He's got a friend that had prostate surgery that took it for about a year until he was physically able to do without it and that guy had headaches from it but my hubby has not had any of the physical side effects. By the way, I tried taking Viagra on 3 separate occasions myself because I'd heard that it would help women just like it helps men but I can't say that it did anything for me but I didn't have any of the listed side effects either. Anyway my taking it at least proved a point with my husband that I was willing to try to do something to help enhance that part of our relationship. Good luck.

     
    Old 12-05-2003, 11:16 AM   #4
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    Hi Giddyup. Thanks for your comments. I am glad at this point you all don't need it. Lets hope you never do.

    Cowgirl, Thank you very much for your opinion and being welling to tell your story. It helps me feel less concerned about using it. I will show your response to my husband. He and I neither one are much on taking stuff. Its nice to think if we make a plan it will turn out ok. I guess men feel like it is a sign of loss of masculinity and weekness to have to take a medication to help. I do appreciate it. I also know everyone is different and it may not work the same for him. Linda

     
    Old 12-08-2003, 09:58 PM   #5
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    I guess men feel like it is a sign of loss of masculinity and weekness to have to take a medication to help. I do appreciate it. I also know everyone is different and it may not work the same for him. Linda
    My husband started having ED a few years ago. It was such a blow to his ego since he had always been extremely active sexually. I was supportive but it was tearing him up inside so he finally went to the doctor for Viagra. At first he only had to take 1/2 a pill for any results but now it seems that he has to take the full pill. I know that he does sometimes get a headache after taking it. I was reading the posts in the Viagra board and there is another new drug that works the same as Viagra but it doesn't cause a headache. I'm very thankful for drugs such as Viagra. You don't realize how much sex is a part of marriage until neither of you can be satisfied. The only negative part is that sex requires more planning. That is...taking the pill about an hour before you have sex and making sure you really want to have sex since the pills are so darned expensive!

     
    Old 12-09-2003, 05:42 PM   #6
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    HI Sheltie, I do understand alot how the mans ego suffers. I think my husband is thinking of asking his doctor. One thing he said he heard I have never heard. Is that with the erection with the pill it can streach the skin and he thinks there will be loose skin or some such thing. I have never heard any of this. I think he is just freaking out. If he would try it he might be happy with it. I didn't know there was a viagra board I will search around and see if I find it. Thanks so much for you reply. Linda

     
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