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Old 01-17-2003, 07:32 AM   #1
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Had a debate over the weekend about guys showering together. This cabin we all went to had a large gym like shower with 6 shower heads. alot of us guys stripped down and showered together. most of us grew up together there were 2 that didn't. how do you guys feel about showering together and being naked and all. never had a problem with this sort of thing. please give me your thoughts.

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Old 01-17-2003, 09:04 AM   #2
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I think it all depends on how you grew up. I was an only child and I grew up in a somewhat isolated area. This meant that I didn't have a lot of friends to bond with as I grew up. So, personally, I prefer my privacy when using the bathroom or showering.

Old 01-17-2003, 12:40 PM   #3
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i shower with other guys at the gym and i did when i played high school sports. But i wouldnt want to shower with my boys they would be talking about every bodys penis for years just joking around but it would still be a little weird i think. i guess i dont mind strangers but not my freinds.

Old 01-17-2003, 04:50 PM   #4
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I have no problem at all showering with other men, or being nude around them. With high school gym classes, and four years in the military, and having had a gym member ship it is no big deal. I even shower at the gym with several of the men I have worked with and are good friends, these men are also good friends. None of us think anything about being nude with each other, or just standing around talking. Asher

Old 01-20-2003, 02:54 AM   #5
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My story is a bit different. In HS we were required to shower after that time I had huge self esteem and body image issues. I hated it and felt so uncomfortable and this lasted a long time. I'm now working out in the gym at a local college with a buddy of mine. It took a couple of times but I can go in, shower, stand there and talk to him or anyone else and isn't any big deal at all. I never thought that guys showering together was a problem, it just was so uncomfortable for me that I didn't want to do it.

Old 01-20-2003, 04:42 AM   #6
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Just to let everyone know: There is a difference between being nude and sex. Just because guys shower together, it doesn't mean you're gay. Not at all. You're just getting clean.

By my responce, I get you can assume that I believe that it's not a big deal when guys shower together naked. hehe..

Old 01-21-2003, 10:15 AM   #7
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its really a big deal for me to shower naked infront of strangers! maybe its just because the way i was brought up but nonetheless whether it is a big or a small gym they all should offer some privacy for people who are not comfortable with this.
IS that too much to ask for?

Old 01-21-2003, 10:18 AM   #8
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I have to agree with many of the other men above. What is the big deal here. I have been showering at the gym for years and before that in college and before that in highschool. There was always someone that I knew either as a friend or just an aquaintance in there with me.

I admit that in junior high when I started taking showers after gym class the gang showers were a little intimidating but after a while you realize that most of the other guys are nervous too and then you all get used to it. Yes some guys have bigger or smaller equipment or flatter stomachs and bigger muscles. But you know what.... There is always going to be someone who is bigger or smaller or who has a better body. Be a man and have some confidence in yourself. Everyone looks you can't help it but 99.9999% of the guys in the shower could care less about what they see. They are just there to get clean and get out.

As far as showering with your buddies as was mentioned in the original post, I say so what. You are all buddies and it is not like you are squeezing into a tiny shower stall together. There was room for 2 so I say go for it and don't make a big deal about it. If you can not be comfortable around your buddies where can you be comfortable.

I have been in situations where I have had to share a bed with a buddy when we got stuck after a day of skiing and had to spend the night. There is nothing sexual about it - a guy has got to shower and sleep don't he.

Old 01-21-2003, 08:03 PM   #9
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Phxbob said it all. There is no problem with you guys showering together. It was a shower intended for several guys to be in at once. If a couple our your buds did not want to join, that is their right. They can just wait until you guys are finished and then go in when they can have some privacy.

I grew up as an only child and did not have to share a bathroom with anyone and was very modest about sharing bathroom facilities. I hated for anyone to even know that I was taking a **** much less see me naked in a shower. Going to college was another thing. I had to get used to sharing bathroom facilities with my 7 roomates. We had a bathroom with three sinks, showers and toilets. In the mornings there could be 6 or 7 of us getting ready at the same time and using different bathroom facilities. It took me a couple weeks to get used to seeing other guys naked and having them see me. At first, I kept a towel or robe on but eventually got to where I just used the bathroom like I did when alone -- naked or just underwear. No need to be modest around your friends. No one paid any attention to how the others were dressed/undressed because we were just showering or shaving to get ready for the day.

Don't worry about sharing facilities or if you look at the other guys. They are doing the same to you. We all want to check out the other guy and see how we compare. Competition for the biggest dick is just a guy thing.

Old 01-22-2003, 05:15 PM   #10
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I had a roomate, now a policeman in town, who would shower with his brother now and then. Like whenever they both were in a hurry to get some where, and this is in the one bathtub shower in the house we lived in. I know one of his brothers would stay over and sleep in the same twin bed now and then also. They grew up in a house of 5 brothers and didn't think anything about it, but none of us other roomies ever joined anybody, but of course were naked and/or undressed on several occasions living together, its normal and no big deal, same as the gym.

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