confused...girlfriend's rape
So a few months back I posted about how i thought my girlfriend's dad raped her.
Supposedly I read everything wrong. When I first asked her if there is anything i should know about her, she replied that her father was a perv and that she was also forced into sex. What I did not put together was that these were two different things.
Her father never did anything to her, and after 4 months of daily stressing about it I finally found out. Though her father was perverted (watched porn on computer, watched my gf get out of shower, etc), she tells me that he never touched her. It was hard for me to believe at first, but now i am putting everything together.
Here is how it went last night:
I ask her if she wants to talk about her abuse, and she says she feels comfortable talking about it now. So i ask her how it happened. she says she was at a party when it happened, and she was too drunk to remember much of anything. I asked her how that could be possible that her dad did it to her, and she replied that it was not her dad who did it to her, but someone at the party. I was in complete shock because this whole time I misinterpretted a text message. I feel very stupid.
Anyways i guess i feel a little better about the whole situation because i can feel ok when shes home (and her father is there), but i am just adjusting to the whole thing now. Now that I know her family didnt do anything wrong, i want to do something, or want her to take action against this guy (I have heard that doing something about it makes victims empowered again).
The lesson here, to me, is to always try to talk about these things without pressuring the victim. It kept me worried and disgusted for quite a while until i found out the truth, and was ashamed for not clearing things up earlier.
Thanks for listening to my rambling. There are no direct questions, just thought i would share this. Thanks
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