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Old 06-02-2008, 02:55 AM   #1
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need some advice

i've been married for 5 years and waited to get pregnant but not lucky enough, we were not using any birthcontrol methods. my menstrual period is irregular and whenever i'm delayed for a month i do pregnancy test and just get frustrated for a negative result, this i've been doing for years. i went to see an OB dr last month due to some intermittent abdominal cramps and pinkish discharges that i notice whenever i pee after a weird menstrual period that skips. she did a pelvic exam and i told her my symptoms, she replied that it could be an ovulation period but just for my peace of mind, i requested her to order urinalysis to rule out any bladder or urinary tract infection. the result of the urinalysis was negative so she just told me and my husband to go home and keep on trying. after one week, i started experiencing lower abdominal pain but it was tolerable and intermittent so i thought it was just an abdominal upset however, it persisted another week and i was getting worried that i might be having ulcer or any abdominal problems. it was the same week that i had bleeding which i thought was my monthly period, it lasted for 4 days but not as much discharge so i thought it would best to see a dr after this. the following week which is 3 weeks after i saw my OB dr, i found myself fainting and rushed to the ED, i had stabbing pain on my lower abdomen, my BP low, abdominal UTZ was done and revealed a ruptured ectopic pregnancy. I just can't believe what i heard, i thought it was a ruptured appendix, i guess that's why the ER doc kept asking if i'm pregnant. and so the blood and urine pregnancy tests came back positive. i ended up in the OR, my right fallopian tube removed, lost almost 1 liter of blood and needing blood transfusion. the OB doc was also the surgeon who did the surgery, she was also surprised to be paged and see me there only after 3 weeks that she told me that i was just having my ovulation. i asked her why she did not order a pregnancy test on me when i came to her clinic 3 weeks ago, and she told me that even if she did, it would NOT reveal a positive result, i'm not sure or say i can't accept her explanation, i just felt that she neglected my condition so i ended up losing a fallopian tube and bled. i felt that i need to get some legal advice about what happened but i'm not sure, i just felt that if ever she did a pregnancy test on me, all of this pain and loss could have been prevented. i'm not blaming her for this but she's the doc, she should have known better and could have done something to know what's wrong with me, and not just relied on her "guesses". i need some advice, do you think i should file a claim??? thanks for reading this. i'm trying to cope up with my loss and post op pain.

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Re: need some advice

I'm sorry you had such a dreadful experience, and thank God you survived.

Regarding your GYN: okay, maybe she could have looked harder to see what was wrong, but ectopic pregnancy often produces a negative preg test, because it's not viable. In other words, a pregnancy test probably would not have helped her diagnose your condition earlier. Also, weren't you seeing her about recurrent symptoms? Then she'd have no reason to think it was an emergency.

I think you were just unlucky, especially since (from what I've heard) an ectopic pregnancy usually hurts intensely, not vaguely.

Once you recover fully, especially since you're now down one fallopian, it might be wise to look into assisted reproductive technology, and consult a fertility specialist. Five years is way too long.

Old 06-02-2008, 11:21 PM   #3
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thanks for your insight. actually, my husband and i went to see her basically for an infertility consultation 'coz it's been 5 years since we got married and without using any contraceptive. it was my first time to see an OB/GYN so she told me that we will start with initial assessment first, and so i told her about my observations. she did a physical and internal exam and said there's nothing to worry plus the negative result of my requested urinalysis. so, i believed her then i started having abdominal pains the following week, i did'nt had a clue then 'coz i have not had any dizziness, nausea or any related symptoms of pregnancy and not even experienced missing a period. and so i thought of consulting my primary doc on my day off which did'nt happen anymore 'coz i was rushed to the ER after my night duty. i knew something was wrong but since my OB doc told me i'm ok, how could i think going back to her or suspecting that i was already pregnant and sad to say an ectopic one. if she did an initial pregnancy test eventhough it was negative then i could have repeated the test myself the following week. i am doing research as to how many weeks would the ectopic pregnancy be ruptured.

Old 06-04-2008, 01:16 PM   #4
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Re: need some advice

Hi Duds8232,
I do not have any experience in what you went through and are currently going through, however i currently am working with a woman who basically had the exact same thing happen to her in October. She is sitting next to me currently 20 weeks pregnant. So basically the point is that there is still hope. Best wishes and good luck

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