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    Old 04-20-2004, 02:08 PM   #1
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    The swan (tummy tuck should i?)

    Well i saw the show the swan on fox 11 and i see transformations on girls that arent as fat as i am. I am 5'3'' and i weigh about 220 and im 20 yrs old... i am thinking of a tummy tuck/lipo in the summer. I have had to deal with being overweight since i was about 7 and i am sick of it. I have tried so many diets i am through. I have not much motivation. i know diet and exercise is basically the only way that i can keep it off. I dont know just seems like maybe i will have more motivation when i look skinnier. I know that after the surgery i would have to follow a diet to keep it off but i am willing to do that. my parents are glad i made the decision but im kinda skeptical. Any advice u guys want to give me?

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    Old 04-20-2004, 02:23 PM   #2
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    A tummy tuck isn't for someone who is 100 pounds overweight. It's more for the sagging skin you can get after major weight loss or pregnancy. I hate to tell you that you HAVE to diet and exercise, just like everyone else.

    Old 04-20-2004, 02:55 PM   #3
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    I saw the Swan last night too. Those women were not that over weight and both had had 2 children. Their tummy tucks were to get rid of excess sick and stretchmarks.

    If you want to get lipo that might help you some temporarily. But honestly, if you don't have the will power now to loose weight you're not going to have it after surgery. I've seen people do this before and they always end up gaining it back and then they are over weight again AND flushed a couple thousand down the toilet.

    Old 04-20-2004, 06:53 PM   #4
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    i guess... its so hard i mean being fat and no motivation. i did have some before and i lost 20 pounds but routinely i lose weight then gain with a couple of extra pounds. now i have less motivation and im not getting anywhere i dont know what to do... help?

    Old 04-21-2004, 11:20 AM   #5
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    Well first of all what you have said just reenforces my opinion that you should not get surgery for this. I would bet money that you would gain the weight back and then be even more depressed about your situation since you would have spent so much money for nothing.

    I think what you might need is something that helps not just you loose weight but your emotional being as well. I would suggest you think about something like weight watchers or a counselor/therapist who specilizes in this sort of thing. It just sounds like what you are needing is some emotion assistance to help you gain motivation. A therapist can help you find out why you are not motivated and help you break the cycle of being unhappy about your weight but not being able to get motivated to do anything about it.

    And you also need a support team which is why I suggest weight watchers. I've never tried them but have heard they are really good for people who need a good support system for loosing weight.

    I would also recommend joining a gym and getting a trainer. Be sure to be picking in selecting one. Find one who has had good success with people like you and someone you can feel comfortable with. The great thing about getting a trainer is that if you have scheduled appointments that are costing you money you are more likely to go then you would be if you didn't have a trainer waiting there for you.

    It just sounds to me that you can't do this alone. Some people can motivate themselves and be their own support system and task master. Other people can't and need help. Neither person is better then the other we all are different and take different things to get us moving. So don't feel bad about this okay?

    Now I know this all sounds like it a lot of work and a lot of money. Well it is. But the money part will probably end up being cheeper then the surgery you're looking at and your results will last longer. The work? Well nothing in life worth having comes without work. But if you get this suport system in place then it will be a lot easier for you and you will have lots of people you can lean on and who will help you keep going.

    But the first step is totally up to you. You have to make the calls and get these things set up. This honestly will be the hardest part. But you just have to ask yourself "Will this bring you happiness?" If the answer is "yes" then you have to make the calls and get moving on this.

    And of course you can always come here for support too.

    Old 04-21-2004, 01:28 PM   #6
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    First let me say this...depending on how you carry your weight if its in the belly or all over, a dr. would consider tummy tuck. I was 206 and did one, but it was tummy. I carried my weight well portioned in all areas. I wouldn't consider lipo, unless its a small area. You will be left with sagging skin as you age if you went that route. Really I'd consult with a surgeon. The first visit of 100.00 or less might be worth it to you just to see what he/she advises you to do. I would WALK WALK WALK .... and tone up all areas you possibly can before doing surgery. You will be limited and restricted for 6 mos. Its not an easy out for weight loss. But I will say that I feel more adequate porptioned in my clothes. My weight is still at 185. I am a larger boned girl, curvy and not a huge overeater. I am more muscle also... Keep me posted hope all goes well for you.

    Old 04-26-2004, 09:47 AM   #7
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    I watch the swan every Monday evening. I would love to have the lipo and the tummy tuck that these women are having. But, I know that my weight has to come off first. I have checked with several surgeons and they all say that weight loss comes first. I know it is hard. I have been battling my weight all my life and I am in my mid 30s now. I was 318 at my heaviest and I am still more than 100 pounds overweight. I am also 5'3' and I weigh around 270. I am working to lose weight with exercise and diet. I know that when I get the weight off, that my skin will be sagging so much that I will need the surgery and my husband has promised that we will get it done then. The surgery cannot be used as a weight loss plan. The larger you are when you have surgery, the harder it will be to heal. It is so hard to find proper motivation. Try looking inside yourself to who you want to be, what you want to look like. set a goal and work like crazy to make it happen. I will tell you a tip that worked for me once, although it does not work for everybody. I went shopping. I bought a dress 4 sizes smaller than I normally wear and hung it on my wall where I could see it every day. I wanted to wear that dress so I set out to make myself small enough to wear it and did it! Get friends to walk with you, go work out with you. There is a site called [url][/url], check it out. Register with family and friends and keep track of your progess there. I go to Curves, a women's only fitness center 3 times a week and it is amazing. I lost 13.75 inches in the first 6 weeks. Try a low carb, low fat, low calorie, high protein diet and exercise. You will see such an amazing result and find out that surgery is not what you need after all. There are so many options out there and it hard to choose just one, and we get confused and frustrated and think that surgery is the only way. I just don't feel that at 220 that it is necessary or an available option to you at this time. Good luck to you!

    Old 05-27-2004, 04:10 PM   #8
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    I saw the swan also and am wondering if I should get the surgery myself. I am scheduled to have it done soon but wonder if it is the right choice. I am 5'7" 155lbs. Should I lose more weight before I do this, or will the results be what I expect? I just don't want to be left with "dog ears" as they call them.

    Old 05-28-2004, 07:33 AM   #9
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    I'm in total agreement with JLKH, and in the same boat as you more or less. While we are far apart in age (I'm 45) we are in the same height and weight area. I'm only 5' and my highest was 225. Nobody could believe this when they were told because I "carry it well" due to being well proportioned and most of it is centered in my stomach area. But alas, here I am obese none the less and certainly have been unhappy about it for several years.

    Getting some help with a therapist will do you a world of good most likely. I have been seing one for a bit over a year now, for other problems mainly but my weight was the effect of the other problems. So, I found as I learned to resolve those other issues, I was becoming more concerned and paid more attention to my weight issues as well. I was feeling so much better mentally that it allowed me the energy and willpower to begin changing my atitutude towards food.

    I've tried several times over the years to lose weight, only to gain even more back. Most of it was due to some physical problems I was having which prevented me from being able to move. A lot was also caused by poor eating habits. I was never able to stick to a "diet" for very long, always felt deprived and cranky. Weight Watchers worked well for me for a while (probably the most successful as far as a program is concerned) but I allowed myself to slip once the holidays arrived and never managed to get back on board.

    That was over a year ago. This past March, I had a sudden ephiphany of sorts. My husband, who is also quite overweight and has major health issues (he had a triple bypass 3 years ago and really never took taking care of himself seriously afterward), came back from a monthly checkup with his blood pressure specialist, who read him the riot act about his weight. For some reason, this really made ME pay attention and I realized if I didn't do something to get both of us on the right track that potentially I could lose him (heart attack?) and certainly, the weight on me wasn't helping my chronic pain issues or my self-esteem and happiness. Right then and there I made the decision that I was going to have to motivate both of us.

    Since that date (3rd week of March 2004) I have lost 15 pounds by just realizing that I CAN'T eat the way I was any longer. I cut out every last bad thing - soda, high fat cheeses, McDonalds, half and half, bacon and egg sandwiches, chips, etc.

    I now focus on lean protein, fruits and veggies, rice instead of potatoes (I have found that potatoes are a major "trigger" for me for some reason to overeat), nonfat yogurt, sushi (a staple for my lunches), nuts (in moderation) and have upped my water intake. The weight is coming off slowly but surely and I am NOT feeling deprived in the least because I know that I am eating so well that if I really want something which is higher in fat/calories as a treat - that that one thing isn't going to blow anything in the long run. I have been keeping my caloric intake to about 1300 average (less than 1200 isn't really good) and my fat intake is usually less than 30 grams per day, which is pretty low. I still have a ways to go in making some better choices, like trying to add a bit more fiber and most importantly - trying to motivate myself to exercise, which I fully understand is important but still haven't gotten to that point yet.

    I do not consider what I am doing "dieting" per se - to me I am viewing this as learning to eat correctly. I am having a pretty easy time doing this - much easier than ever before and I think it is mainly because I do not view it as a diet. The other night, Dr. Phil was being interviewed by Larry King and he said something echoed the sentiment that for some people - getting to the root of their emotional life is the key into making changes in their relationship with food.

    So, the tummy tuck isn't the answer at your young age. It may take you some time to get to the point where you really want to help yourself but the quick fix isn't the answer. This is hard work - it can be frustrating, difficult and take a long time but it can be done.


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    Originally Posted by sSsHhHh
    Well i saw the show the swan on fox 11 and i see transformations on girls that arent as fat as i am. I am 5'3'' and i weigh about 220 and im 20 yrs old... i am thinking of a tummy tuck/lipo in the summer. I have had to deal with being overweight since i was about 7 and i am sick of it. I have tried so many diets i am through. I have not much motivation. i know diet and exercise is basically the only way that i can keep it off. I dont know just seems like maybe i will have more motivation when i look skinnier. I know that after the surgery i would have to follow a diet to keep it off but i am willing to do that. my parents are glad i made the decision but im kinda skeptical. Any advice u guys want to give me?
    You are still young, are you considering having children down the road? I am not sure but I don't think they recommend having children after a tummy tuck. I may be wrong but a friend had it done and she waited after her last child because her Dr. suggested not to have anymore children. And a tummy tuck is not 100% effective you won't gain weight again in that area. If it's a target area for you, you will have a long time to maintain that area, not including very EXPENSIVE . Good Luck!
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    SSSHHHH, If you have enough money for a tummy tuck, save it for now and use some of it to do Jenny Craig. This program is expensive but it really works. It gives you almost all of the food you need for the entire day, except for fruits and veggies - you have to buy those yourself. It also teaches you portion control. You will, no doubt, lose the weight. Once you have lost the weight, if you have excess skin (unlikely at your age) then you should consider the tummy tuck to get rid of the excess skin. Good luck to you. You have your entire life still ahead of you. Don't throw it away. Otherwise, as you get older, you'll look back at your 20's and wish that you had lost the weight early on and enjoyed your youth. I don't just mean in terms of looks. Having less weight gives you more energy, more willingness to participate in life, meet new people and be more self confident. Do it now. Don't wait.

    Old 06-11-2004, 03:23 PM   #12
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    just had to post.
    don't waste you money with lipo if you are overweight. i thought for sure it would help motivate me to lose the 45 pounds i needed to lose--if i spend this much $$$$ surely i would follow through--i was very disappointed. well, here is the deal--when you watch these shows (and i do) they show people who only need to 15-20 lbs--so then when they work out, diet and get lipo, it makes HUGE dramatic differences. trust me you won't be so impressed with your results. if you can get the money, and if you have tried everything else, look into the lap band or a trainer--i really don't think you will be happy with your results. i am 5 ft, 165 lbs. i had lipo on my hips thighs and calves. they took out 7.5 liters of fat--thats 2.5 bottles of soda!! i still can't fathom that, and guess what? i didn't go down a single size in my clothes, or a single pound on the scale, and i didn't get terribly motivated. it took me months to recover, it was horribly painful. (and i am very tolerant to pain) if you are overweight ot begin with, they have to take mass quantities of fat to make a dent, right? the more they take the more painful and risky the recovery is (and really an ethical doctor shouldn't do the surgery anyway). i don't mean to sound negative, but i hate for anyone to go through the disappointment i went through. i wish i would have listened to my mom and my friends who tried to kindly and tackfuly tell me this wasn't the answer. (sorry, i am not so tactful i know how overall my shape has changed (i had major saddlebags) and if i can shake this weight i will probably look really good, but the surgery really should have been reserved for my reward for losing the weight. then i could appreciate the results. i hope this helps, [ removed ]

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