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Old 06-14-2011, 07:50 AM   #1
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Obese husband = no sex life

Me and my husband have been through a rough few months and both of us have put on a little weight during that time, however now its all calmed down a bit I have gone on a strict(ish) diet and am getting exercise, and slowly the weight I have put on is coming off. Over the past 5 months, my husband has done nothing but eat junk food, bring snacks into the house and generally eat very badly - meaning his weight has gone from 14st (144lbs) to almost 17st (230lbs).

Since around April time, I have had problems with the more intimate side of our relationship, basically because he has put on so much weight and has stopped showering every day (he showers 3x per week if hes going out!). The amount of weight he has put on is making it physically impossible to make love to him, particulaly as hes not very well endowed, as if Im having to get around his huge belly and try and sit on his little soldier its proving difficult as I have to use one hand to move his stomach so i can find it to sit on. We have also tried a lot of other positions, but none are good for one or both of us. One night (and without wanting to be too graphic here) I was going down on him and I looked up to see if he was enjoying it, and I literally couldnt see his face over his huge hairy stomach - it actually makes me feel physically sick to be near him and i fear that because of the past few months being particularly bad for the family in general, this will not help us to rebuild our relationship at all.

hes also started paying for porn online and wants me to do things Im not happy doing - especially if he hasnt showered.

Im also very worried about his health, his mother had a heart attack when she was quite young, and his dad had stomach cancer and now has diabetes as well due to poor diet and no exercise. I keep trying to egg my husband on and support him with weight loss etc but he just doesnt seem interested.

The lack of a sex life is the least of my worries over all of these at the moment, but it would be nice to be able to be intimate with my husband withough being squashed by his huge stomach

I do love him very much, but I feel like his weight is literally getting int he way of our marriage and I dont know what to do for the best.

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Re: Obese husband = no sex life

You sound pretty angry. The best you can do is tell your husband how you feel, with an emphasis on your worry about his health. Then it's up to him whether he wants to do the hard work to get himself in shape. Talk to him.

Good luck, Sue

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