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Constant fear of being dumped/cheated on

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Old 07-13-2004, 09:51 AM   #1
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Constant fear of being dumped/cheated on

Now I know this is all OCD. I know without a doubt.

I've been dating this girl for about 2.5 months now and everything has been great. There were 2 times where I've felt uncomfortable, thinking she was acting rude and maybe I got a little jealous.

That set my mind off and I was getting sick over the fact that I thought she was cheating on me with one of my friends because they had been talking. I mean, she really gave no sign of this behaviour.

But I was mentally screwed and worried as hell for about a week. No wonder I feel like I'm getting ulcers.

Thing is I felt the same exact way about cancer, aids, thinking I was gay, and thinking I was a schizoid. All of these things flooded my mind with absurd, irrational thoughts that have weighed me down and destroyed relationships.

Now I play out scenario after scenario of her doing things behind my back and the thoughts just go on and go on. Of course, I do feel my past creeping back on me like poison ivy.

I can see how OCD ruins relationships. I'm doing my best to take steps back and keep my mouth shut. But any advice is appreciated.

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Old 07-19-2004, 08:28 PM   #2
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Re: Constant fear of being dumped/cheated on

I can relate to you about having this fear of being dumped/cheated on. I have been dating a wonderful guy for 4 years now and sometimes I still get these thoughts.

In the beginning of our relationship I was pessimistic. I wasn't expecting anything good to happen to me because I always thought he would find someone better. I've had moments of jealousy for years. Even now I have this fear or "Is he going to break up with me?", "What will I do after all this time?", "Is he cheating on me with someone at work?" but I've managed to keep my thoughts to myself because he'd get upset at the wrongful accusations. I know it's hard to supress your constand questioning and your constant fear or cheating or being dumped but it's for the best of the relationship. I think and hope that with time I will be able to come to the realization that he wouldn't hurt me or break up with me. Good luck to you!

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