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    Old 05-23-2017, 12:19 PM   #1
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    I am a Mother of 3 boys ages 11, 6 and 5. This past Saturday night my my youngest son stayed the night at my cousin house his son is 8. When I went over there to pick my son up the next morning. My cousin had told me that 10 min before I got there, he was in the other room on the phone and when he came out he said the two boys were on the couch under the blanket touching each other pee Pete's. I was in shock and didn't know what to say. My cousin tells me that his son said he learned it from my other son the 6 year old. I told them I would find out from him when I got home. So I asked my 5 year old what had happened but he is very shy and won't talk in front of people especially when he is embarrassed by something. So when I left there and on my way home I asked my son what had happened. Who touched who first? Who's idea was it? He told me my cousin son is the one that touched him and told him to touch him and that it was my cousin son idea. So later that day I asked my 6 year old (privately) if he had ever touch my cousin son private are? Or if my cousin son has ever touched him? He looked at me and said no right away and the look on his face was like that is so nasty why would you ever ask me that. I told he wasn't I trouble but I need too know. And how you guys would ever know something like that. He said no mommy I'm telling the truth that never happened. So I believe him. I don't know why my cousin son would say that my 6 year old showed him. My cousin boy is 8 he should know better. Even if it was one of my son to say something like that (I don't know if it was) he should have said no. I am just in shock and don't know how too handle this. Is this boys being boys? About 6 months ago my cousin grounded his son from his phone bc he went under the ******* history and found out he was watching porn. So I am having a hard time believing this is all on my boys. I don't wanna blame my cousin son. What should I do?

     
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    Old 05-23-2017, 01:53 PM   #2
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    Hi there,

    As someone who was touched by a cousin like this when I was a child, I agree it is not right. I do not believe an 8yr old has any business exploring anything with a 5yr old, especially when said 8yr old has previously been caught watching porn. Your cousin should be switched on enough to connect the dots with this and realise their son needs a good talking to.

    All children explore, but this seems out of hand, especially coming from a victim of this type of abuse - mine went on for years due to parents thinking it was a normal exploration of children learning

    All the best!
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    Old 05-23-2017, 05:26 PM   #3
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    Thank you for responding. He thinks my boys had learned it from somewhere else. He doesn't wanna see that it could have been his son that told my son to do it.

     
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    Old 05-24-2017, 01:07 PM   #4
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    Hugs Mama! The best thing you can do is keep your children safe from spending alone time with these other children, you can't control what their parents do or do not believe, but you can keep your children from being scarred emotionally by them.

    All the best!
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    Old 05-24-2017, 03:37 PM   #5
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    Thank you so much.

     
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    Old 05-25-2017, 01:52 PM   #6
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    Re: Concerned mom

    You're most welcome

    Remember you are doing the best you can by protecting your children from these people. I understand they are family - which kind of makes the whole scenario worse that the parent does not believe their child is in the wrong. I understand we all want to think the best of our children, but something like this happening when your child has been caught with porn before at such an early age would make you believe there is some type of problem here - and obviously the child is in the wrong.

    Just remember, we can't choose our family, but we can choose who we spend our time and energy on

    All the best mama!
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