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Old 06-11-2004, 09:15 PM   #1
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My children are 10, 3, and 1. The babies are 15 months apart to the day. My three year old pretty much potty trained himself when he was 18 months old. Then he decided he wanted to be changed like sissy. I cannot get him to use the potty at all. In efforts to potty train him my 20 month old is pretty much potty trained. He will clap for her and tell her that she did a good job and is a big girl, but he refuses to even sit on the potty.

When he went for his 3 year checkup the doctor told me to get a clear container and fill it with M&M's. Everytime anyone went to the potty they get a handful of "potty M&M's" and have to let my 3 year old see that they have it. He will ask for the candy and when told that they are potty M&M's and that he has to potty to get some he will say okay. I will ask him if he wants some and he will say, " I don't want to potty; I don't want potty M&M's.". I have tried everything under the sun.

My 10 year old was easier. His grandmother would just tell him to go in his pants when she kept him (it was easier than trying to get him to the potty). When I had enough, I refused to buy pullups and got diapers. He cried all through Wal-Mart and I made a deal with him that I would get pullups but if he wet his pants then I would come back and get diapers. From that moment on he never even wet the bed at night. He was about 2 1/2 when that happened.

I tried that with my 3 year old and he doesn't care, he is perfectly content wearing diapers. I have tried everything that anyone has told me to do. We even went a long while not mentioning him pottying at all (he was holding his pee so long that the doctor was afraid that he would damage his kidneys). If you have any advise please let me know.

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Old 06-11-2004, 09:31 PM   #2
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Re: Can't get my 3 year old interested in going on the potty...

I had the exact same situation my two daughters who are 14 months apart. my oldest was potty trained and decided one day that going to the bathroom was too much of a hassle so stop useing the toilet. When that started my little one wanted be potty and pretty much did it her self.

So what I would do was tell my oldest that her little sister was a "big girl" for using the potty and that she was just a little baby who needed diapers. After a couple of days of that my oldest got tired of being called a baby while her little sister was the big girl and she started using the potty again.

I hope that helps in some way

Old 06-11-2004, 09:43 PM   #3
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Re: Can't get my 3 year old interested in going on the potty...

I tried that. He will just agree with you and go about his way.

Old 06-11-2004, 10:56 PM   #4
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Re: Can't get my 3 year old interested in going on the potty...

LOL... I hear that. My 3 year old will say "Yep" when you say he is acting like a baby. He is getting better now that I found the dinosaur underwear

I dont have any great advice. Just wanted you to know that you are not alone. Good luck
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Old 06-12-2004, 06:18 AM   #5
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Re: Can't get my 3 year old interested in going on the potty...

I have a 2 1/2 week break between semesters next week. I might try the underwear thing (letting him pick them out) and see if that helps. Glad to see that you found some dinosaur underwear.

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Old 06-12-2004, 07:47 AM   #6
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Re: Can't get my 3 year old interested in going on the potty...

I had the same problem with both of my children. I was totally stressed out with my DD, it was July and she was supposed to start pre-school in September and wasn't potty trained yet. What ended up happening with her was I bought one of the potty seats that fit on the big toilet and she loved it because she got to go to the bathroom like a "big" person. When my son turned 3, I began asking him if he wanted to use the potty and he was not interested at all. I didn't stress about it at all and I think he realized that because one day he came up to me and said he needed to go pee. He went in the toilet and a couple of days later I put him in underwear and as they say the rest is history. As I'm sure you know, 3 year olds can be very head strong. I think when they know you REALLY want them to go on the potty they will resist simply because going to the bathroom is one of the few things they have complete control over. My only advice is to try not to stress over it (easier said than done, I know) and your son will start using the potty when he is ready.

Old 06-13-2004, 07:48 PM   #7
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Re: Can't get my 3 year old interested in going on the potty...

Okay....I talked to Jack last night about having a mommy day. I told him that he was such a big boy that he was going to have me all afternoon by himself and we would go do big boy things. He talked non-stop about his bib boy day with mommy. We went and got his haircut, went and ate McDonald's, then went to Target to get big boy pants (I knew that they were the only one's that carried Nemo). Of couse after picking up every pack once or twice he went right back to Nemo. I gave him the money and let him carry it to the register. Let him be a "big boy" and check out on his own. On the way out he told everyone what he had bought. Then we went to Wal-mart to get plain white big boy pants and some diapers for sissy.

We get home and he runs in and tells everyone about his day. Then asks to put on Nemo. Of course he didn't have them on 15 mins and had an accident. So on went the plain pants. About 30 mins later he asks to go potty. (Yes on his own!!!) Then he called me in excited that he used the big boy potty. He had a couple of more accidents, but at least he tried to make it to the bathroom. Then he decided that he wanted to go on Mommy's potty, so I took his apart and put the top on mine and put the stool to where he could get up and down. Then he got more excited about using the potty.

He only went twice today, BUT that is a total 180 to yesterday!!!! YEAH!!!

Thank you so much. I used a combination of ideas and they worked so far. If I get him pretty much on the right track, then I will do the same with Gabrielle in a couple of weeks. I can actually see the end of buying diapers in my future now!!!

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