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Old 01-18-2006, 08:39 AM   #1
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Question Vacation.... without the children???

I am planning a vacation for this spring, however, it's for myself. My husband isn't able to join me because of work, and I really wanted some time to myself anyways. Is it unethical or morally wrong to want a vacation for myself? My children are 6, 4 1/2, 3, and 18 months who has CP (yes, there are 4), and truthfully, I, nor my husband have taken a vacation since we've started our family. A part of me knows that this is okay and healthy, but there is a huge part of me that feels guilty and selfish. Any advice out there regarding this topic?

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Old 01-18-2006, 09:13 AM   #2
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Re: Vacation.... without the children???

I think it is fine for you to take vacation separately.

Old 01-18-2006, 09:18 AM   #3
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Re: Vacation.... without the children???

Honey, you've earned that vacation!!!!!! Do not feel bad. I understand how you feel. I even feel guilty leaving the house for a few hours. But I know I need it and so I do it every day. It's really hard when I don't have a lot of time with my husband to begin with, then to leave and be by myself, I sometimes feel bad.

I haven't had a vacation in 3 years (for more than 2 days) And I'm going crazy! I can't imagine going for 6 years. Take your trip. Get a massage. Sit in the bath and eat chocolates. You have earned it! When mom's happy, everyone is happy! Wish I could go with you.
"Go slowly, breathe and smile" Thich Nhat Hanh

Old 01-18-2006, 10:56 AM   #4
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Re: Vacation.... without the children???

Thanks for your advice and support. I really appreciate it!!!

Old 01-20-2006, 02:26 PM   #5
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Re: Vacation.... without the children???

I haven't taken a vacation yet without my child, but DH and I used to take separate vacations. I'd go visit friends or relatives in a warmer climate during the winter and DH didn't care to hang out with his inlaws or my girlfriends. And I really didn't care to go to nascar races or to vegas with DH and his buddies. That's not to say we never went on vacation together -- we've also gone on cruises or to Mexico with other couples.

I say go for it. My ideas of a vacation is relaxing on the beach, reading lots and lots of novels I never have time for anymore, going shopping, site seeing and out to eat. If you took the kids you'd be worrying about their needs -- feeding them, entertainment, medications... You need time to yourself to recharge your batteries.

Old 01-20-2006, 05:12 PM   #6
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Re: Vacation.... without the children???

I have gone without my kids. I have 3 (2 with special needs). 2 years ago I went to Nashville with a friend of mine and had a wonderful time. I did miss my children but I really wanted a break. I don't think I NEEDED a break but I WANTED one. I went for 5 days and it was fun.

If you can and you have the finances and babysitters and whatever else you need, I'd go for it.

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