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Old 07-19-2007, 01:12 PM   #1
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almost 2, problems adjusting to day care

Well, here is the thing. I've always been home with my son, and tried to work my shifts so the times that I work is when daddy would be home. He is my only child, and was never in day care before.

Recently, I took on a second job, and I needed to put him in day care twice a week. It's very new to him, and he is having a hard time adjusting! We had a schedule at home, but it was very loose and I never really made him clean up his toys or books. The day care he is going to is great and they have so many fun activities for the kids--but it's such a culture shock for him to be around other children and have a set schedule, and have to clean up after himself. I am so worried, and I feel so guilty for not being strict about that stuff before now!

Plus, I want to start a steady dayshift schedule, so I would be putting him in daycare all day, five days a week and I am worried about how he will react--one side of me thinks it will be better for him...but I am concerned that he will hate it!

He seems to enjoy daycare otherwise, and loves to play and interact, so it's not a social thing--

Any mothers want to give me advice or reassurance? He is my first and this is completely new ground for me! Thanks!
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Old 07-19-2007, 02:56 PM   #2
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Re: almost 2, problems adjusting to day care

I put my dd in daycare when she was 3 months old. At home she may stay on her head, but daycare personnal she really respects and listens. She even became a bit better at home, since they are teaching her to clean up after herself. So far she was at small private places with about 10 kids. I don't know about big places, but I am pretty sure he will have to listen to them.

Old 07-19-2007, 05:41 PM   #3
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Re: almost 2, problems adjusting to day care

Speaking as a mother of three who put her first child in day care and as a preschool special education teacher for two years, I think your child will actually do better once you put him into day care 5 days per week. I think you are right that the change is difficult for him, but I have found that when the child gets the consistency of going 5 days a week, he becomes accustomed to it much quicker.
That's not to say he wouldn't eventually get used to a 2 day a week schedule, it would just probably take longer. Kids like to have regularity and know what is coming next.


Old 07-20-2007, 11:38 AM   #4
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All three of our children have been in daycare since they were very small, so we've seen other many other families come in with your exact concerns. 99% of the time the parents have a more difficult time adjusting than do the kids. It seems to be a guilt thing. Learning to function as part of a social peer unit will prove to be very rewarding for both you and your son. A regular schedule and simple requirements such as picking up his own toys give a child a sense of safety and pride. Hang in there! It will get easier.

Old 07-20-2007, 09:36 PM   #5
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Re: almost 2, problems adjusting to day care

You know, I am so glad you guys responded....I think a few of you hit the nail right on the head. I agree that going to day care five days a week is a good thing for my son. I guess I was just feeling guilty about placing him there (since I have been at home with him for so long it seems) and a bit skitterish about how his first reactions were.

Now that I think about it, learning to listen and cope with other sources of authority will be a good experience for him. Thank you so much for your reassurance
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