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    Old 01-01-2015, 11:09 PM   #1
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    Our 8 year old son (who we adopted from birth) is currently on holiday with his dad camping. His dad just called me and told me that he was caught pants down and playing a "game" with a 7 year old, touching each other.

    I caught him and a friend about a year ago also "playing" or shall I say just lying on top of each other. The other boy admitted that he told my son what to do.

    We are really concerned and obviously hurt? What do we do how do we handle this without causing damage to his self esteem and how do we personally deal with the embarrassment?

    Please help!!

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    Old 01-16-2015, 08:54 AM   #2
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    Re: Our 8 year old boy caught playing with a 7 year old boy - Need advise please

    You do absolutely nothing. Completely normal for little boys to be curious. It is the show me yours and I will show you mine, stage.

    If you make a big deal of it, you turn something normal into something creepy for him.

     
    Old 01-16-2015, 10:14 AM   #3
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    Re: Our 8 year old boy caught playing with a 7 year old boy - Need advise please

    Hi,

    Do absolutely nothing.
    It is just another stage in his growing up.
    Making an issue of it will only encourage him to do it more,

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    Old 01-16-2015, 02:16 PM   #4
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    Re: Our 8 year old boy caught playing with a 7 year old boy - Need advise please

    I totally agree with the previous 2 posters. This is completely normal and innocent behaviour for young boys. They are just being curious about their bodies.

     
    Old 01-16-2015, 02:20 PM   #5
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    Re: Our 8 year old boy caught playing with a 7 year old boy - Need advise please

    Yes it is normal for little boys to experiment with their interesting parts. In this case, they were caught which can scare the parents. Just be open to talking to them when they have questions.

     
    Old 03-16-2015, 11:37 AM   #6
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    Re: Our 8 year old boy caught playing with a 7 year old boy - Need advise please

    I also agree that it is normal for them to be curious. They are not looking at the situation the same as the adults are.

     
    Old 05-03-2016, 06:06 PM   #7
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    Re: Our 8 year old boy caught playing with a 7 year old boy - Need advise please

    I think it's a little odd. I agree, playing and curiosity is normal, but overly mature sexual play schemes are not normal and is a red flag (which would be my next question, is what this play looks like or is described as). If it has a mature theme, I would look further into where he got the ideas and determine if an older adult or friend of the family is abusing or exposing him or his friend to mature TV.

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    Re: Our 8 year old boy caught playing with a 7 year old boy - Need advise please

    I am curious as to why you felt you had to mention that he is adopted in this context? Are you seeking to distance yourself from any "blame" for his actions?
    You are over reacting a bit...I had brothers and they and their friends were always having "peeing contests" and comparing their mighty manhoods to each other. All are now fathers and grandfathers now, not a sex offender among them. Sera

     
    Old 05-15-2016, 08:50 AM   #9
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    Re: Our 8 year old boy caught playing with a 7 year old boy - Need advise please

    No worries, at this point it's normal.
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