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Old 01-02-2007, 09:50 AM   #1
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Unhappy uk citizen, depressed, embarrassed, dental phobia, bad teeth.

i suffer from dental phobia and haven't been to a dentist in 10 years. my teeth really needs A LOT of work...basically the state of my teeth has got me into a depression, ruined my personal life, making my work hell, i don't go out anymore, i rarely socialise. i am just so ashamed of myself. sadly i can't afford to get my teeth done as it will cost me A LOT of money (chipped teeth, extraction, implants, veneers, root canal, removal of 3 roots). i checked out a site called something like the gentle dental office - they specialise in a 3 step system and are for clients who suffer badly from dental phobia or have 'reached rock bottom' due to embarrassment...sadly it's not supported by the british NHS (national health system), and they charge a massive amount of money for the treatments.
writing this post is a massive step for me. i really need help, but don't know what to do or where to go as money are an issue. i am really embarrassed about my teeth, and have even had suicidal thoughts.
at the same time i'm worried that the dentist will look at me with disgust or make me feel humiliated.
i hide my teeth when i speak, i hide my mouth when i laugh. i pretty much try and hide all the time.

can anyone help me out reg. what to do or where to go? can i get financial supported treatment if refered from psycologist?
i just want my old life back. i constantly feel ashamed, embarrassed and depressed because of my teeth.
i know there's hope, but sadly i can't afford that myself.

thanks in advance.

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Old 01-05-2007, 12:42 PM   #2
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Re: uk citizen, depressed, embarrassed, dental phobia, bad teeth.

I had a tremendous dental phobia and would only go to the dentist when something was atrociously bad. I finally got sick of the pain, the ugly smile, the broken root canals and missing crowns, and made an appt. And the guy treated me like trash and was extremely condescending. I was so appalled that I avoided seeking another dentist for half a year. The second dentist--a woman-- was marginally better personality-wise, but she stuck a gum probe into a nascent abscess (after noting the abscess on her chart) and caused me to have a massive infection.

Waited another six months to find yet another dentist, the third in a year. At this point I told myself that my phobia didn't matter, and that I wasn't going to get myself into a lather about either my phobia OR some stranger's demeanor. After all, I am the one paying the bill.

I was able to conquer the phobia fairly well, even considering a significant amount of pain during the first course of extractions. I have been very adamant about MY needs and MY feelings, and have insisted that the dentist work with me and my limitations (for instance, I frequently feel the need to swallow or to briefly sit up). This third dentist never embarrassed me or made me feel awkward; in fact I felt that the state of my mouth was routine and not a big deal.

My advice to you is to shop around, and to find someone with listening skills who is supportive and encouraging. If you don't feel you are being accommodated, find someone else.

In the long run, I found that my own phobia was misplaced. There was nothing to be afraid of and I now regret not realizing this earlier. You will come to a point where the appearance/condition of your mouth is far more important to you than fear ever was, even if it takes you some years to get there. I am convinced you can do this. Find a provider and ask for a consultation. If you like the tone of the office and the personality of the dentist, half the battle is won.

Restoring a smile is a long and sometimes frustrating process. I have no problems asking for consultations when I am not satisfied with something. Do some research on the Internet to familiarize yourself with options and courses of treatment. It will help you to realize that you not only are not alone, but that there ARE solutions.

Old 01-07-2007, 07:07 AM   #3
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Re: uk citizen, depressed, embarrassed, dental phobia, bad teeth.

thanks for your information.

this is the place i've been thinking about contacting:

backside is the price, and i don't know if it's a rip off or seriously worth it. but their way of treating people with warmth and care and not making them feel humiliated + only 3 appointments needed, is what i'm looking for. it is painfree, minimum swelling and you can go home straight after each appointment!
this company cater for people like me.
i have been looking around for other dentists, but none of them seem to really care or provide detailed information.

this is a very big step for me, and i'll need to see a dentist who understands my situation and who wants to help me regain my long lost confidence.

my teeth needs hours and hours of work, but i know it can be done.
i might win the lottery tomorrow.

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