It appears you have not yet Signed Up with our community. To Sign Up for free, please click here....

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) Message Board

New Girl

Post New Thread   Closed Thread
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
Old 05-02-2004, 03:46 PM   #1
Junior Member
Join Date: Apr 2004
Posts: 18
Calikermie HB User
New Girl

I think I have PTSD, I was sexually assaulted when I was 14 ( now I'm 23). It was a family friend and he didn't rape me, but he did other things to me and then was dragging me screaming into the bushes to rape me but then stopped all of a sudden. He then tried to convince me that I was a **** and dirty and that it was all my fault and that he would tell everyone what I did if I didn't keep quiet. Until 2 years ago, I totally thought it was my fault. And whenever I would think about him or even that family I would get all anxious and my heart would start beating fast and stuff and I would get all uncomfortable. I can't even say the guy;s name. And I've had tons of problems as a result of this incident, its really affected my life. My therapist says I can press charges if I want to and sue him, but I don't know. Its been 9 years, should I? I would love to see his A** in jail. Thoughts?

Sponsors Lightbulb
Old 05-12-2004, 06:04 PM   #2
Junior Member
Join Date: May 2004
Posts: 15
Really HB User
Re: New Girl

I would suggest that you do whats best in order to heal and restore yourself. Do you think that seeing him in jail is going to help you recover?

I think that If you heal and deal with all the problems that this incident has created. You will have a better understanding and feell confident in your decision to press charges or not.

Hope that helps

Best wishes, Really

Old 05-17-2004, 03:25 PM   #3
Senior Member
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Canada
Posts: 185
Tanki HB User
Re: New Girl

I can relate to what you are feeling.

At age 16 I was in an abusive relationship that was mental, physical, sexually, emotional, verbal , all of it. After that ended I was in numerous situations by friends that I was sexually assaulted (but not raped) and sexually harrassed, i've had close calls as well.

I am now 24.

It will not go away, unless you've dealt with the problem, it will continue to be something that will bother you. IT took me 8 years to finally say enough is enough, I'm not going to be stuck in the past, I am not going to live with the fear, the nightmares, the body memories and flashbacks, I'm tired of being triggered all the time, and scared and I never know why. I'm tired of not completely remembering all that happened. But the more you try and remember the further you actually push it back. No once can deal with assault on their own, it will always show it's ugly face when you think it's behind you. After 8 years of therapy, not only dealing with abuse issues and ptsd, but GAD and clincal depression to boot. I am still in therapy as well, seeing the same psychiatrist after all this time. I can now say that I LIVE WITH THE REGRET that it happened, at least then you can move on.

Take care of yourself, seek help if it's something you feel you need to do in order to heal and to trust again.

Closed Thread

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Board Replies Last Post
old girl, new girl, and I am in the middle. what do I do? jerr8899 Relationship Health 19 11-09-2008 01:27 AM
Problem with this girl Dang12 Relationship Health 20 06-14-2008 01:10 PM
I'm in love with a girl whose boyfriend is a friend of mine Jack Smith Relationship Health 109 08-15-2007 01:24 PM
Guy Girl Problem, Girls Please Respond!!! depressedguy85 Teen Health 27 04-18-2007 12:02 PM
Should I ask this girl out? Mattm4000 Relationship Health 4 06-19-2005 10:37 AM
Decoding The Girl Code niceguy22 Teen Health 3 03-10-2005 02:02 AM
DESPERATELY Need Girl Advice For an Unlucky Guy niceguy22 Teen Health 29 02-17-2005 09:36 PM
girl friend mom over protective need advice friendlyguy Teen Health 15 10-25-2004 05:43 AM
Something very wrong with this girl grafton Mental Health 3 10-06-2004 03:48 PM
Girl problems PuNk1guy6 Teen Health 5 08-05-2003 04:15 PM

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is Off
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

Sign Up Today!

Ask our community of thousands of members your health questions, and learn from others experiences. Join the conversation!

I want my free account

All times are GMT -7. The time now is 12:44 PM.

Site owned and operated by HealthBoards.comô
© 1998-2018 HealthBoards.comô All rights reserved.
Do not copy or redistribute in any form!