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Old 02-10-2003, 02:32 PM   #1
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I am starting to come to terms with myself.

Alright so I am always the advocate for, "It doesn't matter what gender the baby is as long as he/she is healthy", but with having two girls I am up to my ears in pink, peach, lavender, and periwinkle!!! I could use some BLUE!! Yellow and lime green even!! SO I think I am worried that if this is a girl me and/or DF might act unappreciative when they give us the news. I totoally willlove and cherish another daughter, and I already have this awesome name chosen for a girl, but I worry about acting bad like out of no where. You know how your feeling can just pop out unexpectedly. I am afraid DF will sort of detached at that point. He called my stomach JR. last night. Am I alone?? I truly just want a healthy baby in all actuality, but you know what I mean, right?

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Old 02-10-2003, 03:10 PM   #2
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Re: I am starting to come to terms with myself.

I dont think that thats bad at all. my mom and dad had four girls and they said that with every one of us that swore (and kinda hoped) for a boy. they still loved us all the same. i know how you feel though, even though this is my first, i would really like a boy, not that a little girl isn't a huge blessing also, i just always wanted my first child to be a boy for some reason. my dh really wants a boy and calls it "him" all the time. best wishes and god bless you.

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Old 02-10-2003, 03:37 PM   #3
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No one wants to seem ungrateful when it comes to having a healthy child, especially when you have personally been affected by the loss of another pg. However, I think it's human nature to have certain goals and dreams. How many times do you hear about a woman that wants to get pg with twins or doesn't want twins. The fact is, a pg alone should be enough. I'm hopeful that I will get pg w/one baby, not twins. I've said that several times. However, deep down I know that I could handle the twins as long as my baby was healthy.
Because we are all familiar with how you feel, your comments aren't a big deal. To make yourself feel better, I would only talk about it with your husband so you don't worry about what other people think about what you say. (Not here, but with friends or family). Are you going to find out what sex the baby is before the birth? It may really help in your situation! Blue BLUE BLUE!!! Best of luck! Jodie

Old 02-10-2003, 05:27 PM   #4
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Re: I am starting to come to terms with myself.

I know just how you feel. dh and I have 2 boys and are hoping for a girl. although I will love a baby boy just as much I am concerened that I will be upset if they say its a boy. This will be our last baby so we really want a girl. but im sure you and hubby will love either. besides we can just trade sound good? just a little humor.


Old 02-10-2003, 05:46 PM   #5
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Re: I am starting to come to terms with myself.

Hey all,

I can totally understand you guys prefering the opposite sex to what you already have. There is nothing to feel bad about that's for sure. As you said, you will cherish the baby either way, just an extra blessing if it is of the sex you would like.

A lot of men prefer to have boys because of the carrying the family name on etc.... there is always a perfectly normal reason behind it.

Fingers crossed for your dreams to come true.

((hugs all round)) Kellie

Old 02-11-2003, 08:01 AM   #6
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Re: I am starting to come to terms with myself.

I actually felt so guilty for having a preference that I thught I was abnormal. Everyone I knew always wished for a "healthy baby" and had no preference...or at least didn't mention one.

Thank the Gods for this board! Everywhere I looked people were stating a preference and I finally realised I wasn't so different. It is human nature to favor one or the other, and its also normal if you truly don't have a preference.

So yay all of us for being human! lol <IMG SRC="">

Old 02-11-2003, 09:09 AM   #7
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Re: I am starting to come to terms with myself.

I can get my u/s done anytime between March 1st and the 15th!!!!!!!!! They gave me that option!! I was so thrilled. So I will be anywhere between 17 and 19 weeks. I am woried that I should go with the later date even though I reallywant to see him/her earlier because I want to make sure they can REALLY tell if you know what I mean.

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Old 02-11-2003, 11:15 PM   #8
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Re: I am starting to come to terms with myself.

I think if you get your hopes high for one sex over the other,I think you could resent it.You really hope and wish for something and it doesn't turn out how you expected ,your let down.I think same thing applies to when having babies.Even though it's healthy,in the back of your head secretly you were hoping for something different.I felt that way,when I thought we were having a boy but found out we were having a girl.In my heart I wanted a girl.

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