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    Old 01-27-2016, 06:05 PM   #1
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    Unhappy Insecure with small boobs as bf lovessss big ones.

    Hi I know it sounds absolutely stupid but I recently have been feeling very insecure about my body. I have been with this guy for around a year and things between us is quite perfect. We love each other very much and we r serious about the relationship. We kind of assumed this is the one.

    Before I knew this guy I felt super good about myself. I never doubted my attractiveness in sexual way. And I never thought about my boobs or *** being not good enough. But when I started dating this guy I feel different now. I rmb one night when we made out I jokingly asked him, hey u like big boobs right? Are mine too small? Then he went silent, and said that he doesn't like enormous ones. (Mine are Bs and quite perky) and then I asked him someday later again if he's a boob guy or *** guy, and he said ***. Thing is, when we are together or having sex he barely touches my ***, nor my boobs. N he never compliment anything about it, at all.

    It makes me really unhappy as I am used to get all these compliments from my previous bfs or at least got them played in foreplay. Now I feel like maybe he just thinks I'm not sexually attractive to him. Sometimes he goes soft in the middle of sex and it really frustrates me.

    I asked him if I should get implants and he said I should decide it myself. But one time I asked if I should get my hair dyed blue n he was absolutely against it. So I don't think it's about he wanting to respect me for decisions. I think he wants the implants but he doesn't wanna sound like a jerk. He said, "big boobs are nice but I don't need them" but when he watches porn he always goes for big **** and booties.

    I dunno what I can do. Now I start looking at women with very curved body figure and feeling super defeated.

     
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    Old 01-28-2016, 03:46 AM   #2
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    Re: Insecure with small boobs as bf lovessss big ones.

    Hi, I do not like fake boobs, a real turn off to me. I think being natural is the only way to go and I think I speak for many men. It is your personality that makes you truly beautiful.

     
    Old 01-28-2016, 05:09 AM   #3
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    Re: Insecure with small boobs as bf lovessss big ones.

    I do not believe a woman should surgically change her body even if her man asks her to. If he wasn't attracted to you in the first place he would not be with you. If you had big boobs and a big butt he would probably look at Asian porn. I think what he said to you about getting your boobs enlarged was right on. It is your personal decision but he was OK with it. I would never want my wife to do that for me but if she felt she wanted to do it then that would be her decision. Some men like to fondle more than others and that is who they are. Since you are good with your body I think it would be a mistake to alter it. I hope you get back to being secure about yourself.

     
    Old 01-28-2016, 05:23 AM   #4
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    Re: Insecure with small boobs as bf lovessss big ones.

    As a woman, I would advise you against EVER doing anything surgical unless it was truly what you wanted to do. Implants are not a one and done....there are issues with future mamograms, and problems with implants potentially rupturing and they do have to be replaced. Unless you are willing to spend 8000-10000$ every ten years this is a big financial undertaking.

    You have to love yourself and be secure with yourself...if this man makes you feel anything less then beautiful, maybe he isnt the guy for you...

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    Old 01-28-2016, 06:01 AM   #5
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    Re: Insecure with small boobs as bf lovessss big ones.

    Nothing that you posted points to him being the one with a problem. It sounds very much like you're the one who has a serious problem. You're very insecure and you're totally making up assumptions about your bf's feelings despite the fact that he's been telling you that he doesn't have a problem.

    You don't need implants, you need counseling to help you overcome your massive insecurity about yourself. Based on everything that you posted about your bf, he has no issues with you at all, you're literally creating all of this drama in your head. You need to work with a therapist to stop being so insecure because all you're doing now is deliberately causing problems where there are none and that's not how you keep a healthy relationship going.

     
    Old 01-28-2016, 06:43 AM   #6
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    Re: Insecure with small boobs as bf lovessss big ones.

    you're willing to risk your health etc, for a guy you've been with a year?
    I wouldn't do it.....if this guy makes you feel bad about yourself, whether it's his fault, or your own insecurities, why not just end the relationship......don't mutilate yourself.....those things don't always turn out as planned.....

     
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