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    Old 08-17-2016, 07:28 AM   #1
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    My husband and I have been married for a year now we're both in our early twenties and this is driving me crazy! My husband has decided to delete all of his social media except for snapchat and ****** which is where I'm going with this post and if I attempt to touch his phone even to look at the time he goes crazy.. On his ****** he is actively on there looking and liking on naked photos of women and following their "blogs" all of the photos are of them touching themselves and just posing for the camera this is not porn this is women uploading pictures of themselves. I have talked to him about how it makes me feel uncomfortable but he continues to do it. His profile isn't private and I can see it but he doesn't see an issue with this I want to know if I am being really insecure with this and should let it go or am I justified and what I should do! Please help I feel like it's eating me inside! Me seeing all of these pictures he likes makes me feel like every time we get intimate he's seeing those girls and it makes me not want to continue I really don't know what to do

     
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    Old 08-17-2016, 07:50 AM   #2
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    Re: In need of some marital advice!

    You are right to be concerned. Porn is one thing because it is a business but looking at women posting naked pictures of themselves is not good especially if you are a married man. Not sure why he thinks it is OK especially since you told him you are not OK with it. Not sure what you should do though. I'm thinking that you and your husband should either get counseling or give him an ultimatum. I hope you can get some more feedback.

     
    Old 08-17-2016, 09:06 AM   #3
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    Re: In need of some marital advice!

    An ultimatum is a good idea thank you! I just don't know what kind of ultimatum I could give him. Every time I bring it up he just says it's harmless and that I'm overreacting

     
    Old 08-17-2016, 09:13 AM   #4
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    here's the type of ultimatum you give him.....feel free to change the wording if you want.....

    STOP DOING THIS OR WE ARE DONE

     
    Old 08-17-2016, 11:47 AM   #5
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    Re: In need of some marital advice!

    I agree with the above statement. It will take a lot of courage on your part and support from your family and friends but he must stop this behavior. I used to think it was me years ago being insecure but it is very negative for a wife and he is using porn or naked women to entertain himself and relieve his stress. He needs to know that this habit and behavior will not be tolerated by you. I wish you the best. Many men have found this habit since they were young and it is hard to break but intimacy with a spouse is damaged. Best wishes in your decisions.

     
    Old 08-17-2016, 08:56 PM   #6
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    Re: In need of some marital advice!

    Thank you to everyone who gave me advice! I've talked to my husband and he's deleted it I just don't know what to think now that it's gone I guess I will have to start from square one with rebuilding our trust foundation! I appreciate all of the responses I've gotten <3

     
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