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    Old 08-29-2016, 06:40 AM   #1
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    Boyfriend looking at nude photos of women?

    Hi, this is my first post on this site. I've been having difficulty in my relationship. My boyfriend and I have only been dating for a year, at first everything was just right. He was sweet towards me, and we never fight. We had sex regularly, we are still in our early 20's. I could tell he was sexually satisfied, cause I did everything he liked, and cause I enjoyed it too. We would sometimes watch porn together, since I don't really have a problem with it. But recently these last few months, he's more distant, and doesn't want to have sex much. Maybe 2-3 times a month, which makes me a little frustrated. All he wants is for me to go down on him, and I don't think it's fair cause I don't get anything in return. But recently I found out that he's been looking at photos of nude women, the kinds where you have to pay for the photo'shoot and watch livestreams, and when I asked him about it he lied to me. I was shocked cause I don't know what I did wrong, I take good care of myself. Im pretty fit, I work out regularly and I'm not ugly or anything. The second time I asked him about it he got all sarcastic and told me not to argue with him, I just told him it made me uncomfortable. He told me that hes going to do what he wants regardless of what i think. It seems like that's where his attention most of the time now. He's always on his phone looking at them. Am I over reacting? What should I do? I love him very much, but I feel like I'm being replaced by photos.

     
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    Old 08-29-2016, 08:15 AM   #2
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    Re: Boyfriend looking at nude photos of women?

    The only thing you did wrong was to get involved with this guy to begin with. Telling you he's going to do it whether you like it or not is disrespecting you. I've ended relationships for this very same thing......
    it's up to you, but I don't think you'd be losing much.....
    don't let him destroy your self-esteem......again you didn't do anything wrong

     
    Old 08-29-2016, 08:54 AM   #3
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    I totally agree with Rose. Kick this oaf to the kerb and find someone who respects, appreciates and loves you. Nothing but misery in this relationship. Sera

     
    Old 08-29-2016, 07:26 PM   #4
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    He sounds like a jerk. I'd dump him if I were in your shoes.

     
    Old 08-30-2016, 02:38 PM   #5
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    I agree that you should just say bye and forget him. I never could understand why some women stay with men that treat them badly. Normally they say because I love him!?!? How could a woman love a man who treats them like crap? I'm just a nice guy trying to understand.

     
    Old 08-30-2016, 05:13 PM   #6
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    Re: Boyfriend looking at nude photos of women?

    You said you were in your early 20s...this is a warning sign of what is to come. If a guy treats you like this over something that you could have talked through- imagine where your life might be in another two years with this jerk.
    Unfortunately he puts himself before you and he has said as much.
    Leave him and let him miss you...let him realize what he lost...but dont go back to him. You deserve better than that and somewhere out there is a guy who will put you first!
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    Old 09-04-2016, 01:58 PM   #7
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    Re: Boyfriend looking at nude photos of women?

    I'm actually more concerned about his response. Wow. Sounds like he's in his 20s going on 10. I foretell that this man will be out of shape and alone when he's in his 40s.

    I totally agree with the feedback given to you, particularly rose and nik. In fact, I'd add to nik's advice and say... imagine yourself with this man 10 years down the road if you marry: You trying to raise a family and household while he's at the strip bar entertaining "clients".

    You deserve better.

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