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Old 11-09-2003, 09:14 AM   #1
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Question My best friend's ex

There is this kid that I really like and he really likes me but the only problem is he's my friend's ex-boyfriend and they don't get along very well. They've only known eachother for 2 weeks and they've already gone out and broken up. Is it okay to go out with him? Oh and I liked him before she went out with him. Please help me!!!

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Old 11-09-2003, 04:29 PM   #2
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The answer to your question is very simple.

Just ask yourself this:

What do you value more, the friendship you have with your friend, the good the bad, all the time you have known each other, all of the things you have done together?


The posibility of starting a relationship with a guy you hardly know and seems to have a history of short relationships?

It is that simple, just answer these questions and judge what is more important and then you have your answer.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

Old 11-09-2003, 05:17 PM   #3
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My personal opinion would be for you not to date your best friend's ex.

I was put in a similar situation many years ago. It ended up that I noticed the attraction and told my friend that she could date my ex. Granted, I really did mean it because I did not like it and thought that they may hit it off better. She did not date him though and I was and am truly grateful to her.

Everything aside, it can still be uncomfortable for some of the people involved.

Just to give you an update. Years later, while I was away at University, they had the opportunity to meet up again. I once again expressed my support if she wanted to date him. She did go out on a couple of dates but it did not work out. Had it worked out, it would not be uncomfortable because time had passed.

Essentially, the question you need to ask yourself is "How would you feel if you were in her shoes and she was in your shoes?"

Old 11-09-2003, 05:50 PM   #4
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If your friend does not get along with him too good then you have to ask yourself if it is worth giving up your friend for him. It might not happen but if it does will you be OK with losing your friend?

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