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Old 11-12-2003, 05:14 AM   #1
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Unhappy Channel Surfing

My man doesn't kiss me that often, yet when he is watching tv, a few times I saw him turn the channel back to a channel where he saw this couple making out and kissing, and after that scene was over, he turned it. And when he sees a show with couples kissing or stuff he leaves it there and watches it. Does that mean he wants someone else or what? Why does he only watch that part and then turn it? And when I come in the room he will change the channel. Why is he acting like he wasn't looking at it when I know he was? But last night he did that but later he was really loving to me and kissed me and everyting and told me he loved me. So what is a man thinking when he sees a channel w/a couple making out? If he changes the channle or something does that mean he wants someone else or wants to cheat on me since he's hiding watcing it? Or what doest that mean? I'm confused. And it makes me feel hurt when I see him changing the channel when I walk in. Like I can't trust him. So when you see a scene like that are you thinking of your s/o and wanting to do that w/them, or are you wishing you were with someone else or thinking about the person on screen?

 
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Old 11-14-2003, 07:11 PM   #2
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Possibly he is turned on by the "watching" part. Could be he is turned on by voyeurism?

If i'm watching tv and a couple is kissing, i view it within the context of the show/story line. Depends how they are kissing too, if it's just nice kissing whilst fully dressed then i might think how romantic. If there was nudity and sex involved i'd likely be turned on and thinking "i wouldn't mind some of that" and i'd turn to my partner and give him that knowing smile. I don't think "wish i was with that actor now" as movie stars don't do much for me......unless it were Pierce Brosnan!!

 
Old 11-16-2003, 03:29 AM   #3
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I find myself doing the same thing when my husband comes into the room because I don't want him getting any ideas. I'm not a very affectionate person to begin with and after 25 years of marriage and approaching menopause I don't feel sexy, I don't want to look sexy, I don't want to have the pressure of having to perform. By perform I mean that hubby has never cared for dead-stick-sex, my lying there like a dead stick, and after this long I have to psych myself up to get in the mood. It's not that I mind having sex when he wants it but I don't want to have to do the gasping, shake the earth, can't get your breath sex every single time. If you've been pressuring your man and lord knows I did when I was in my early twenties about the sex issue then that may be part of the problem. Maybe some of the guys will come up with something else. But maybe you just have a man that's not into being affectionate. My mom says I was that way even when I was a newborn-feed me, change me and then put me down, don't rock or cradle or cuddle or I'll cry. Said she was so happy to have a baby girl and then when I didn't like to be held it really hurt her feelings until she realized that no one could hold me for very long without my crying. Guess some of us are just born that way and we don't mean anything by it when we don't show affection. It's not that we don't love our significant others, we just don't have a need to be touched and held and kissed so we forget that our partners enjoy it. Anyway, just my slant on it.

 
Old 11-16-2003, 09:02 AM   #4
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say something to him i think we often read into to many things personally i dont think it means anything other than he is watching 2 people kiss, when you see him do that go over and kiss him , i mean its not just up to the man to be affectionate, im not really an affectionate person but with my recent ex BF i was....... i tried to be more affectionate and he loved it
anyway we arent together for other reasons , what i would do is try a different approach when you see him watching these things if that doesnt work than talk to him about it
good luck

 
Old 11-17-2003, 08:44 AM   #5
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Maybe he changes the channel because of things that you might of said in the past when you caught him taking a glimpse of a pretty girl in public? If you've pointed this out or showed extreme jealousy w/him just "looking", then he's going to feel uncomfortable watching something like this for fear that you might nag him....I wouldn't worry about it....just let him be himself. He's there w/you and only watching television. Keep that in mind, "he's here w/me"....good luck!

 
Old 11-17-2003, 09:00 AM   #6
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It sounds pretty innocent to me. They're just kissing. It's not like it's porn or anything, and even if it was it's not like he's cheating on you. When I channel surf I'll stop and look if people are kissing. It's just curiosity. He's probably just embarassed that you saw him looking at that.

 
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