It appears you have not yet Signed Up with our community. To Sign Up for free, please click here....

Relationship Health Message Board


Post New Thread   Closed Thread
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
Old 12-29-2003, 11:05 PM   #1
Join Date: Nov 2003
Posts: 4
babiidoll HB User
Red face temptations

I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now and everything about our relationship is almost perfect. Everyone tells us we're going to get married. But see, the thing is, part of the reason why our relationship is so perfect is because i've almost completely cut myself off from hanging out with any of my guy friends. Whenever i do, he ends up getting mad which leads to a fight. So to prevent that, i just pretty much stopped hanging out with all other guys period. Well now that I have alot more time because my athletic season is over...I'm starting to hang out with more of my girl friends, who are almost all single. They just do whatever they want, hang out with whatever guys they want until whatever time, hook up with whatever guys they want, party as they please, drink as much as they want. And when i'm with them it makes me miss all the fun i used to have. I mean i love my boyfriend more than anything, when i'm with him, nothing can be more perfect, its like a place of serenity where everything is just perfect. But as soon as i am not with him and hanging out with my friends its like a whole other side of me. And sometimes i think that maybe i am cheating myself. Maybe im cheating myself from all the fun. Then i get temptations where i really really want to cheat on him because i ALWAYS want whats forbidden. I've done it my entire life. If someone told me i cant push a button because it'd blow up a car i'd probably do it or come close to it because i always give into temptation. I've been like that my entire life. So i find myself attracted to his friend, and that makes it that much more tempting because not only is he good looking, but he is also his good friend. I'm sick and i can't help it!!!!! I'm attracted to this kid that he hates and that makes it that much more tempting too cause he hates him. I get these urges sometimes to cheat on him to see what its like to kiss someone else other than him and maybe use alcohol as an excuse, but I know that wil probably make things worse. I don't know, I guess this post was really pointless, i just really don't know what's wrong with me!!! If you have anything to say please post back!! Anything is help.

Sponsors Lightbulb
Old 12-30-2003, 01:18 AM   #2
Join Date: Jun 2003
Posts: 291
Leanea HB User
Re: temptations

You need to choose what you value most and act on it. If you value your relationship put your energy there to make it better! If you value your freedom to be sexual with other men more break up with your boyfriend don't cheat. I mean it's simple. You are in control of this. But if you cheated on him, he may find out and he'd leave you. Even if he didn't find out your relationship would be a lie, and you would have to live with it. You have a choice to make, there is no in between.

Last edited by Leanea; 12-30-2003 at 01:25 AM.

Old 12-30-2003, 08:37 AM   #3
Join Date: Oct 2003
Location: Upstate NY
Posts: 184
JessieD HB User
Re: temptations

If you do cheat (in any way), it will ruin your relationship with your boyfriend and you will probably lose him. Since he is jealous of your male friendships, perhaps you feel as if you are sacrificing too much. That could be something to discuss with him and try to work on together. But as for your desire to give in to temptation, get over it or be prepared to lose him.

Closed Thread

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Board Replies Last Post
Temptations meshel90 Addiction & Recovery 0 02-18-2010 03:57 PM
Tips for dealing with office temptations? JerseyGirl36 Weight Loss 5 02-15-2006 02:55 PM
More Huge Vicodin Temptations man74 Addiction & Recovery 11 09-05-2005 08:20 AM
Share your favorite low cal snacks! (Plus, ways to avoid junk food temptations) wheatwife Weight Loss 17 04-28-2005 02:54 AM

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is Off
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

Sign Up Today!

Ask our community of thousands of members your health questions, and learn from others experiences. Join the conversation!

I want my free account

All times are GMT -7. The time now is 09:45 PM.

Site owned and operated by HealthBoards.comô
Terms of Use © 1998-2017 HealthBoards.comô All rights reserved.
Do not copy or redistribute in any form!