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Old 12-30-2003, 08:13 AM   #1
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is it me?

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 months, and things are going good expect he flirts with every girl in sight and checks out every girl in sight. I know that guys are going to check out other girls but he makes comments about them. The other day we were all hanging out with his friends when these girls came over to see his friends and he was (what I would call) flirting with this girl and then when the girl leaves his friend talks about how him and that girl that my boyfriend was flirting with messed around and my boyfriend started getting mad at his friend saying don't talk about it, your making me jealous!! I was so mad and he knew it. He told me that I was over reacting and that I needed to trust him. He makes me feel like I'm being some over jealous girlfriend but I just don't think he should do this! I'm human and I feel human emotions such as jealousy. What do you think? Am I in the wrong? I feel like I would trust him a whole lot more if he didn't do this, in my head I'm thinking it he flirts with them while I'm there...what does he do when I'm not there?! Any advice would be great! thanks in advance!

 
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Old 12-30-2003, 08:38 AM   #2
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Re: is it me?

Totally his fault. That is immature behavior. That's why I have always gone for older guys who've gotten past that kind of selfish childishness. Good luck.

 
Old 12-30-2003, 09:04 AM   #3
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It's not you at all. He's rude and immature. It's okay to look discreetly, but he shouldn't be making those comments with his friends when you're there. I don't think he'd like it too much if you looked at guys and flirted with them. He needs some growing up to do and show you some respect.

 
Old 12-30-2003, 09:18 AM   #4
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I know! I tried to say things about other guys in front on him and sometimes he'll get mad and I'll tell him that he does that and he'l say well its DIFFERENT.

 
Old 12-30-2003, 09:28 AM   #5
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It's not different. Make a New Year's agreement with him--neither one of you do it anymore.

 
Old 12-30-2003, 09:47 AM   #6
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No it isn't you. He sounds as though he isn't ready for a full time committment. It is like he is keeping his options open.
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Old 12-30-2003, 10:04 AM   #7
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What can I say or do that will make him see my point of view? He thinks I'm just being jealous and I'm not! I also feel like you said that I am being disrespected. He likes to go to all the parties and I feel as though I am on a totally different page...I know we only been together a couple of months but I still don't have the verge to go partying and clubbing. Common sense tells you why people go to parties and clubs.

 
Old 12-30-2003, 10:16 AM   #8
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Sounds like you're not totally compatible.
Btw, I didn't mean to imply that flirting is wrong. I do it myself. I only think it's wrong if it gets too graphic, and if you do it in front of your partner. JMO!!

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Old 12-30-2003, 10:18 AM   #9
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yeah I understand. I mean I flirt too! but he goes above and beyond the boundaries.

 
Old 12-30-2003, 11:29 AM   #10
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Doesn't sound like you should invest too much time into being this aggravated. Whatever it is that is aggravating...in this case, a boyfriend. Sometimes it's better to be alone for a while to get back on track after someone's been messing with your head. And, yeah, he is messing with you. I hate that some guys think that they are such a catch that us women will take any bs they dish out. Good luck and be true to yourself.

 
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