Problem with kissing

05-21-2005, 04:44 PM

Hi there.

I got abit of a strange problem.

Ive been dating this girl for around a month and a week. We just have started to kiss.

But its weird. When we kiss she seems to like tongue, but im not really used to that. I like kissing and nibbling on the lips.

What happens most of the time, is that when we kiss. She opens her month and kind of waits for me to use my tongue. But then i kiss with my lips to try kiss her lips, but her month is open. So I try move my mouth to get to her lips but then she moves her mouth around for me to use my tongue. So what ends up on happening, is that her mouth is over my lips. Then we laugh. I cant really explain it. To me this should not happen.

And after she always says that she is sorry. And says she messes up. Tonight she sent me a text message saying something like. - “Im really sorry I kept on messing up, I feel like such an idiot. Im happy about how tonight went and had a really nice time, anyways sleep well.” I replied saying – “Don’t worry you not messing up at all. Its very normal in the beginning. We just have to get use way we both kiss. I had a really nice time and happy the way things went to. It was nice meeting your parents. Hope that you sleep well to.”

But the thing is I don’t really think that it is normal for the kissing to go wrong at the beginning of a relationship. Should it not be that kissing should be fine in the beginning of a relationship?

I don’t know if im being silly, but to me kissing should not be like this at the beginning of a relationship.

Any input will be great thank you so much.

05-21-2005, 04:59 PM

Have you ever tried kissing with your tongue?

This is "French Kissing" and it's the only way I've ever done it.

I actually love it! And, maybe you will end up loving it too.

Why not try it? It's quite easy.

05-22-2005, 04:17 AM

Thank you sarasota2004 for your reply.

Il give it a try.

Is there anyone else with an idea on how i can fix this?

Thank you.

05-22-2005, 05:22 AM

I'd suggest that right at the laughing part (where the lips aren't connecting with the mouth) you say (still smiling) I must be the only person this side of the Mississippi who doesn't really enjoy French Kissing!!!
She gets the message and can decide whether she can settle for regular kissing.
Voila!

05-22-2005, 10:26 AM

Kdes,

One of you has to go with the flow.
Lead, follow or get out of the way.

HOOP!( And let me try)

LOL Just kidding!

05-22-2005, 10:49 AM

Thanks guys for your replys.

05-22-2005, 11:30 AM

Why can't the two of you kiss BOTH ways?

For me, GOOD kissing involves a bit of EVERYTHING. There's a whole lot you can do with your mouth that isn't just the same old thing over and over. Kissing involves lips AND tongue and anything else you want to toss in there! Kissing can be rougher and passionate, it can be slow and sensual, it can be calm and relaxing, it can be intense and orgasmic...

So why the fixation on ONE type of kissing only?

YOU should try doing what she wants. Clearly, she's trying to tell you what she enjoys.

Stop allowing her to apologize for kissing the way she enjoys, too!

SHE can kiss you the way you enjoy, too.

Do BOTH.

If YOU do not enjoy using your tongue to kiss -- have to be honest here -- it's going to take some effort to find a lady who will be OK with NEVER tasting your tongue. She may be out there, though. Go find her if you cannot compromise at all here.

My Mom always taught me that I should at least TRY something a little bit before deciding if I liked it or not. This is how I came to enjoy broccoli. I used to believe I would hate it when I was a kid. Now it is my favorite vegetable.

Get the idea?

Problem with kissing

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