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Old 09-11-2005, 01:10 PM   #1
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I cant trust my husband anymore

Okay heres whats going on, I have a 10 week old baby- shes my third, I dont want to have anymore at least right now I may change my mind later on although highly unlikely anyway I am not on birthcontrol yet because 4 weeks ago I had a biopsy done on my cervix and I couldnt get on bc unless it came back negative which it did (I got the results on Friday). So I will make an appointment for the IUD tomorrow.
Now heres the mistrust part my husband knows I am very affraid of getting pregnant again so we have been using condoms last night we had sex he put the condom on and sometime during he took it off and I didnt notice. He admitted to doing intentionally because he wants me to get pregnant again .
I went to ********** dot com and found out that I am ovulating now and have been since tuesday so the chances that I could get pregnant are very good. And if I did get pregnant it would put my due date at june 2 thats 11 months after my baby was born thats insane. I even told my husband that yesterday so he knew.

How can I trust him after doing that to me? Someone help me to understand why he would do such a horrable thing to me. I really dont know what to think about this other than I can never trust him again.

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Old 09-11-2005, 01:35 PM   #2
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Re: I cant trust my husband anymore

Originally Posted by Im_Robyn
Someone help me to understand why he would do such a horrable thing to me.
Because he's a man and he's ignorant to a womans body and the effects of having a child. I suggest you take him WITH you to your appointment and discuss, with your doctor AND husband, the risks and cons associated with having back to back pregnancies.

I'm sure he would not intentionally put your health, or that of another baby, in danger. I would safely assume that if he knew the risks, having heard it from a PROFESSIONAL (not you yelling at him after you found out about the condom), that he might wise up.

As for the insanity of having two enfants so close in age. Again, he's a man and he's ignorant to all it takes out of a women to be a good mother. Have you explained to him that you will essentially be pregnant for almost two years, and could be breast feeding for almost that long too?

It sounds like he is more oblivious to your being a wife and mother then being untrustworthy. Perhaps sitting him down in the presence of a mediator (counsellor) and wising him up to how insensitive and ignorant he is will help.

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