Having Mutual Friends While Dating...
When me and my ex look back on our relationship, one of the biggest things that always comes up is the lack of mutual friendships and "couple" friends that we had. I noticed this too, but never really saw it as a relationship breaker.
Now that I think back on things, maybe it was unhealthy. I tended to totally seperate my life with friends from my life with my girlfriend. She always hated that she wasn't included in typical "guy" activities with my friends, such as going to parties, playing sports/ surfing, going out to bars, or etc. The excuse I usually used was that basically all of my friends were single, so I would feel awkward with my girlfriend kind of "tagging along" while we all hung out and acted goofy. After all, they never tried to coax me into cheating or into engaging in promiscuous activities with other women.
She would try to get me to go out with her friends at times, most that were couples, but I was just never that interested. For some reason I always saw my time with friends and times with my girlfriend as independent parts of life.
For those of you in relationships, do you guys share mutual friendships or go out with friends a lot? It seems like something that would be good for a relationship, just something that I neglected to really think about as being of high importance. If you both tend to have seperate friendships, how can you attempt to bring those friendships together, especially when most of your friends are single and hers are couples?
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