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Old 09-29-2006, 12:38 PM   #1
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different lifestyles

I recently graduated college and am working full time. My boyfriend of a year, however, is in his 5th year of college, so we have to do the long-distance thing. That bugs me enough as it is, but it feels like our lifestyles are sooo different sometimes--when I was in school (a mere 4 months ago) I was all about going out, partying, etc., but now that I graduated and am offically an "adult," it annoys me to no end when he wants to go out and get drunk all the time. He complains about being busy, being tired, and being broke--but then goes out on a Thursday night, blows $20 at the bar, and goes into work late the next day because he is hung over (this has only happened a couple of times, but irritates me, mainly because I could never think of doing that. I'd always go in WITH a hangover.). When I went to visit him last week, I told him that I might want to stay in on Friday and watch a movie because I would be tired, after all I do get up at 6:30 AM. He said, "...but, it's Friday!" He is such a great guy, smart and can hold a great conversation, loveable, funny, attractive, really good to me. But I HATE feeling like I am the adult in the relationship--even though he is a year older than me. Am I just overreacting? I don't want to say anything to him because I don't want him to take it the wrong way.

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Old 09-29-2006, 01:20 PM   #2
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Re: different lifestyles

I am in exactly the same position...even though i was at uni and enjoyed goin out etc now he's there and im not its so hard to understand why he wants to go out (hypocrit or what??). However I breached this with my boyf and it didnt go well, he said I was tryin to ruin his time at uni basically. and now we r in crisis talks. So if you do want to talk to him do it face to face, dont accuse him of going out too much just say you are feeling a bit wierd and want to talk to him so your on the same page.

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